Ladies, if your birth control failed would you have an abortion?

Question

If so, why would you have one and would you feel bad about this?

Answer 1

Yes.  My husband and I don't want children, under any circumstances.  And no, I wouldn't feel bad about it.  I'd feel paranoid and have another tubal and possibly a uterine ablation, just to be safe.

Answer 2

NO WAY!!

Answer 3

No, I wouldn't. It's not up to me to play God with an unborn child's life.

Answer 4

Im not sure, I don't believe I would. But seeing as anymore pregnancies stand a pretty good chance of killing me it is something I would have to think about. I have two children who deserve a mother, but on the other hand I'm not sure I could go through with an abortion and be happy with myself ever. I guess my husband might have a say in it also.

Guess I better make sure it never comes to that. Because I don't think I could do it.

Answer 5

If the guy had a good job and could afford child support and my support then I would keep it. If not, then I would abort.

Answer 6

Absolutely not. And now I have a two year old daughter.

Answer 7

No, i would never have an abortion unless I was raped.  Even then I would have difficulties with it.  However I think that this is a choice all women should be able to make.

Answer 8

I dont use BC..I abstain from s*x.  

Answer 9

I would not have an abortion, I would have a daughter or son instead.

Answer 10

No, I couldn't do that. I would seriously consider finding adoptive parents for the baby, though, because I don't want kids, and I'm in no position to raise a child at this point in my life.

My two cents about The Pill. Crouching Doggie is right. Often those women who "get pregnant on the pill" have skipped doses or not known about interactions with other medications. Elf is also right in that doctors today are not telling their patients about the effects of antibiotics and so forth on the pill. I have been given antibiotics countless times and no doctor (who has my list of medications) has ever said to me, "Use back-up birth control." The only info I've ever been given was a small paragraph in a three-page set of instructions from the emergency room. Doctors are failing miserably in this area.

Answer 11

  Definitely not.

I am personally very strongly opposed to abortion. However, I was in a tight spot once, and thought that I was pregnant, and as ashamed as I was to admit it, abortion was the first thing that popped into my mind. I would never have followed through with it, but I can see how desperate people can make bad choices.

Answer 12

Yes. $+energy+time. No.

Answer 13

No. I'm abstinent until I'm ready to have a baby.

Answer 14

Yes, I would. I have a life to lead and am just not mature enough, nor do I have the money and the time, to adequately raise a healthy child. This is why I use birth control pills AND condoms. I would not feel bad about it - thousands of children are up for adoption every day, I do not need to inconvenience myself for 8 mos just to give someone else a child. Additionally, I don't want to pass on my genes, but my insurance does not cover any good method of sterilization - and I don't have an extra 10k to spend on it. If I aborted a fetus, I wouldn't feel bad - my long family history of cancer is enough to stop me in my tracks when it comes to breeding.  

Answer 15

Yes, I absolutely would, and of course I'd feel bad about it at the same time.  I refuse to bring a child into this world unless I'm in a long-term, committed relationship with a man who also wants a child.  Why else would I be on birth control?  Also, I've had an unwanted pregnancy before, and ended up giving my child up for adoption.  That was the hardest, most devastating thing I've ever done.  It nearly destroyed me.  I don't think I could bear to go through that again.

Answer 16

no..

neither shall i give myself to a man, whose child i'm unwilling to bear.

Answer 17

NO and not because of religious reasons or something like that. I just think its like killing someone before he even has a chance in life.

it seems to cruel to me After all if you think of it, no woman has ever really regretted bringing her child in life and if they actually give birth to that child in the end they can only be proud of their decision. I mean it certainly can be difficult to become a mother under some circumstances but is this a good excuse to prevent the existence of someone?  

Answer 18

Nope, I'd buckle down to my responsibility of becoming a mother.

Answer 19

Thank goodness I never had to face that choice!  

Answer 20

No. I am pro-choice, but I could never do something like that. I mean, when I watched the Secret Life of an American Teenager and discovered the main character's mother had her around seventeen, it brought tears to my eyes because it made me realize that if my mother had gotten pregnant with me as a teenager and decided to abort me, I wouldn't be here.

I'd only get an abortion if my life were in danger or if there was a 100 percent chance of something being horribly wrong with the baby that it would have to suffer the rest of its life.  

Answer 21

Yes, I would have one, but no, I would not feel bad.  I do not want a child, I would not be a good mother, and I have no desire to have my body change dramatically so I can just add 1 more baby to the list of ones that will never be adopted and never really be loved as a child deserves to be.  It's irresponsible to go through with a pregnancy when I can't be sure that my future child will ever be adopted.  I have been lucky as I have s*x a lot and my birth control has never failed in the 5 years I've been having s*x.  Knock on wood.

Answer 22

I'm a guy, but I have to be honest here that this whole business about how OCPs "fail" or aren't fool-proof gets way too much media attention than it deserves.  When properly used, i.e. taking the right pill on the right day and being a bit responsible, the genuine "failure" rate is exceedingly low, I'm talking it simply is so low that it doesn't even warrant discussion.  OCPs fail when the patient doesn't take the pills responsibly.  The reported "failure" rate is based on self-reports of women who claim to have taken the OCP in a "responsible" manner.

Interestingly, the failure rate when even the earliest studies were conducted in primates (using controlled methodology) were astonishingly low, to the point of nil.

Beyond that, I have nothing to offer.

Answer 23

I don't use birth control; before I was ready to have a child, I abstained from s*x because I think that's the most responsible thing you can do. I'm not actively trying to get pregnant but if it happened I'd be thrilled... I know I couldn't bring myself to have an abortion, and it wouldn't be right to end a life just for my own conveniance. I'm capable of being a parent and I'd love to have a child, so unless my life was in danger then there's no reason for me to have one.  

Answer 24

No, I wouldn't have an abortion.  I wouldn't because I feel that I have endless love and the nurturing qualities to raise a  child and because I am the responsible party because I made that choice.

But I believe that everyone else has the right to decide for themselves without judgment.

Answer 25

I would hope it never came to that, but yes, I would have one, if modern technology hadn't yet caught up to my artificial womb idea. I can't handle pregnancy or parenthood.

Answer 26

no... cuz id never let myself get pregnant to begin with.... i dont let guys pressure me into s*x anymore...  if u jus lern to say NO to guys ull never have to worry bout unwanted babies...

1 thing i cant understand is y so many women cant say NO to men???  dont they understand that saying NO is a womans right???   dont beleve this cr@p bout it being ur DUTY to satisfy him...  his problems r his only an not urs....

Answer 27

Yes, I would. The whole point of birth control is to avoid getting pregnant. So, if that happened then I would have an abortion.

I would be upset, and feel bad, but I would still have the abortion.

EDIT: About Gold Digger's comment: Yes, it's a woman's right to say no. But it's also a woman's right to say yes if she wants to.

Answer 28

no

I am pro-choice but personally I just couldn't

Answer 29

yes i'd have one and no i wouldnt feel bad

lets worry about actual human beings before we get worked up over potential people

Answer 30

no way! i dont desire children but if i got pregnant, how dare i decide to kill my baby! Its not my right cause its not "my body" its now 2 bodies! a baby is separate to myself. its a life! i'm not about to play God!

Answer 31

At my age,  I certainly would opt for abortion over the risk of birth defects.   But for me, it's a moot point, since we use a combo of IUC and vasectomy to prevent pregnancy.

To Crouching Doggie:  Years ago, when the Pill was relatively new, prescribing practitioners were very careful to explain proper usage and to inform patients that certain medications, such as antibiotics, make the Pill less effective.   They were careful to advise the use of a back-up method for the remainder of the pill cycle in such cases.  

A girl getting  the pill today is not always receiving ALL the pertinent information about proper usage, and as a result, the failure rate is higher.  

You may be a conscientious doctor, but not all prescribing practitioners are as careful as you...and your tendency to either blame the woman for ignorance or accuse her of irresponsibility smacks of traditional patriarchal misogyny.  

Perhaps you should look to your own industry and point out the incompetency that is truly responsible for contraceptive failure rates, instead of scapegoating your favorite target.