Ladies, when should I call a 22 year old women if she dosen't pick up someone elses phone shes living with?

Question

I got a number from a beautiful, nice young 22yrs women, she had to ask this older women for permission which I'm guessing she lives with her grandmother. Here are the issues.

1. I called twice the next day at 3:45pm then 5:45pm.

2. I cant leave a message, instead a automatic voice messanger comes on saying "Sorry voice message is unavilble, please call back later thankyou"

3. She is 22 so I figure since during the day "propably at work" she didn't pick up maybe I should call around 8:45pm or 9pm is that alright?

4. Sorry if I may sound ignorant, but this women is Mexican American and I'm African American. I serious wonder if her Mother or Grandmother is not telling her that I'm calling. NOTE: The older women she was with seemed kind of mean, The reason why I say that is because I said by and have a nice day to both women and the older one just stared at me without a reply back or smile....propably she felt as if I was only "acting" like I was a gentlemen and judge me by my look "braids, gucci reading glasses, timberland boots and erring on the side ETC"....I had a cotton botton to the top polo shirt, the pants where justa little bit baggy not too baggy but I came up to her with nothing but respect and even told the older women sorry if I caused any interruption.

What do you think and When should I call this beautiful young women I met?

Answer 1

It sounds like racism is raising its ugly head, but it could be religious prejudice. In general, the older people are, the more they want their (grand) children to date, then marry in the same ethnic group and religion.

If you are not Catholic and she is (some Mexican-Americans aren't), your cause is doomed. Try at 10 am on a Saturday She should be awake and still at home. Don't get your hopes up, though. Grandma is going to block you every chance she gets.

If you do get through and take her to lunch, see if she has e-mail, IM, a work number (and the rules there; most people can take personal calls on their lunch hour, some can't, some don't get lunch 12 - 1.)  You might write to her via snail mail.

Again, if you get through and make a lunch date, a suit would not hurt, if you had one; nor would taking her to a place with cloth napkins and real flowers.