Ladies, would you want your groom to be able to have his favorite song played at the reception?

Question

You've just gotten married, and its time for the reception. Your husband is letting you have pretty much any song you want played and so on.

But he asks that his own favorite song be played one time.

And this happens to be it.

http://youtube.com/watch?v=0ZkllM8znx4

Do you let him do it?

What about this one?

http://youtube.com/watch?v=hMenB9Ywh2Q

Or is the implied message of the second one, and the embarassment of the goofball nature of the first one, convince you not to let him do it?

Answer 1

I love the first one, but a wedding reception doesn't seem too right to play, despite its AWESOMES. If you think about it, would the people there enjoy listening to it? Or dancing? Whatever the choice its up to them two.

The second I think is perfect for it. The moods just right.

Try using the first one if you have personal friends there that you think will like it, but if its fancy peeps, or people you don't particularly like or know, probably wouldn't enjoy it. (tho I would so who knows?)

Answer 2

Let him have them both, bloody h**l! He is just having a laugh! I worked at a hotel where weddings happened everyday and for one the song to walk back up the aisle after the couple were married was "always look on the bright side of life". It's just a bit of a joke, don't take it seriously! Dance with him when they are played too! x

Answer 3

If you're this worried about a song I'd hate to see how you cope with the bigger issues in life, and inevitably marriage...

Answer 4

Absolutely. Unless the song is offensive (racist or sexist remarks, very sexual lyrics, etc), I would have no problem with them. It's your wedding, too - remind your fiancee that the day is about the two of you, not just her, and that marital compromise starts now.

Answer 5

The first one isnt that bad, but the second one no way.  My friends were married Catholic and someone got a hold of the grooms shoes and on the souls they wrote in large letters HELP ME, when he kneeled at the alter everyone in the first few rows could see it.  We still talk about it and they are still married after 25 years.  Its his day too and you are marrying someone with great sense of humor, don't stifle it now....enjoy your day and have fun.  Congrats!

Answer 6

The first one I don't like for a reception because it's old, unfamiliar to a lot of people and not easy to dance to. The second is fine for a reception. It's familiar, fun and easy to dance to. It's also cute for a wedding because to me it means "another single person is off the market." I think it's fine for a reception dance.

As for making threats, don't. He just might make you follow through and if you threaten and don't leave, then he'll know your word is no good and he can try anything he wants.  Don't ever make a threat unless you're positively sure that it's more of a promise and not just words.

Hope this helps!

Answer 7

I would be stoked beyond belief to have the Final Countdown be the song where the entire bridal party walks in!  Its so cheesy and yet it rocks. Even for someone who doesnt know the song they would still enjoy it.

Im not someone who reads too much into what songs are supposed to imply- I think Another One Bites the Dust would come off funny especially at a reception instead of insulting. I think it would be more appropiate for me as I toss the boquet than any groom. Besides if the party is truly rocking then no one really pays attention to the songs anyways. I know its supposed to MEAN something to the bride and groom but at most weddings Im not listening the lyrics of any of those dances and insinuating a love story behind it. Its supposed to be music to get us dancing.

As long as it doesnt have too much cursing or headbanging (mild headbanging is all right but I do draw a line somewhere) then Im ok with it. Heck, Id even play Baby Got Back to get everyone on the floor. Even my grandma knows the lyrics.

Answer 8

I ABSOLUTELY would let him do it.  It's BOTH of your day and honestly, it would be kinda funny.  Actually a new thing that people are doing (that I wanted to do, but wasn't creative enough) is in the middle of the wedding song, they DJ lets the "record" skip and then go into a song like that and the bride and groom do a choreographed routine.  That would be AWESOME and people would be talking about your wedding FOREVER in a good way!

If she threatens to leave you, it's only because she's worried the "perfect" day she has in her mind would be ruined, but in all actuality, it'll be even more special that you guys both got what you wanted.  Don't be too hard on her for threatening that because she doesn't really mean it, she just doesn't want to be embarrassed on her wedding day.

Good luck!

PS - how about Europe for your entrance song????  The DJ could play it as your bridal party enters the room and waits for you?  That would actually be AWESOME!

Answer 9

I would let him.  The first one is not really a dance song if you plan on having dance music.  It is both partners wedding and neither are distasteful, just different.  No problem in letting him play it on my part.

Answer 10

I have no problem with both songs. I actually like them! But I would have problem if he wanted to play songs like "baby got back" or other songs with many cussing in it because that's not showing respect to some older or conservative guests.

Answer 11

Absolutely, I would have either song.  However, I wouldn't have it as an early song.  The second song would be inappropriate as a first dance of the couple, for instance. These are both really danceable songs and who gives a darn about the meaning when you are dancing?

By the way, who is the group for the first song? I really like that one.

Answer 12

No, a reception is a time to have fun.

As someone who has already done that once,

it doesn't matter, just so everyone has a good time.

Answer 13

I'd let him do it. Only someone absolutely retarded would breaka up with their fiancee if they wanted to play those songs lol.

Answer 14

I like both of those songs!!

The Final Countdown would make a great Last Dance/Bride and Groom Exit song.

I would let my fiance play both of these songs, especially if I was picking out all the rest of the music. It is his wedding and he should get a say in how it goes. Wedding receptions are about having fun and celebrating and I think that both of these songs fit the bill.

Making threats to leave you if those songs are played is the most childish and stupid thing I have ever heard. Sometimes brides get all Bridezilla like while planning the wedding. Sit down with your woman and let her know that it is YOUR wedding as well as hers and you think it is fair to have a couple of your favortite songs played. If she procedes to make threats about leaving you if you play them, then maybe you need to scare her alittle and bring her back to Happy/Fair Relationshipland. Give her a taste of her own medicine. Next time she threatens you with leaving, just say something like 'I can't do this whole wedding thing anymore' and walk out the door (don't actually leave!!!). Wait a minute and go back inside and talk. Hopefully, that will wake her up.

Answer 15

Music selection should make both the bride and groom happy!  The song I am choosing to dance with my father to is "completely inappropriate" for a wedding but has sentimental value to the both my dad and I.  (the song is "House of the Rising Sun" by The Animals) A wedding is meant to be enjoyed!  If the bride really cares that much about song selection, she seems like a real bride-zilla!

Answer 16

Yes, I would definitely let my groom have his favorite song played (so long as it wasn't utterly offensive to our guests). I would let my groom play both of those songs above at my reception whether I liked them or not. The wedding is for BOTH the bride and groom. As a bride, I would certainly be concerned if my groom began telling me the music I could and couldn't have played at my own wedding....what would that say about how he would control things in the marriage? The same goes for a wife trying to control things.

Answer 17

LOL just imagining those songs being played makes me laugh! This husband has humor though it might not be appropriate to play during certain parts of the wedding (like the first dance! haha) But I think those songs are perfectly fine during the reception when everyone's eating or maybe if there's a dance.

If a woman actually left her fiance over something little like wedding songs, then these two obviously aren't ready to be married since they probably won't be able to handle bigger and more important problems in the future.

Hope this helps!

*If my future husband ever asks me if he could play those songs, I would dare him to dance solo to it in front of everyone, lol!

Answer 18

It is his wedding too...if you get to play what you want, what is wrong with him playing what he wants?

It is a celebration....LIGHTEN UP  and get your panties out of a bunch!

Answer 19

BROOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!!

I'm no female BUT i still think that those two songs KICK ***.. I mean come on final countwown intro is liek the ultimate intro. AND another one bites the dust, come on its queen what would be the problem those are classics. i think that not putting it would be offensive to me. its both your night not just her night.

i am married and my wife considers me just as much as i consider her, and some song cant change that so i dont even think she would really have a problem with them to be honest dont over think it.

Answer 20

yes i would let him after all it is his wedding to.

Answer 21

I think you could play either or both. I think Another One Bites The Dust would be fun for the garter toss,if you are having one. Its a very special day for both of you. You should be able to carry out our wishes as well. The wedding will be over. The reception will be your first big (if not the biggest) party as husband and wife. Let her know that marriage is about compromise. You are two separate identities and in the future there will be plenty of things that you may not agree on, so she might as well start with the reception music. I love my fiance regardless of any type of music, food, guests or whatever there is no way in h**l I am not going to enjoy my wedding day because of a song or two...If she has given such a threat, she may need to reevaluate her idea of marriage and commitment. Stand fast and hold your ground she will realize that its not worth argruing about. I  bet she wouldn't like it if you pretended to be upset about the flowers she picked or the BM dresses.

Answer 22

I wouldn't want my groom playing either of them.  It implies that he doesn't really want to marry me.  I don't like that, even in fun.  I would explain my point of view to my groom and I'm positive he would understand.  I don't think it's a "threaten to leave" him moment, but I do think he should consider your feelings.

Answer 23

First off, I'm not that much of a bridezilla that I would care about a total of 5 minutes of music.

But even if I was....what's so wrong with those songs.  It's not like the song is sexually explicit or riddled all the way through with profanity and would offend anybody.  I think if you get crazy about a stupid song you need to seriously lighten up!

It's a party.

Answer 24

As an adult, it's not about you "letting" him play his favorite song. It's his wedding day also, so let him enjoy it. No need for you to control everything. Also, if this is big enough that you would consider leaving him......you're relationship is already in trouble.

Answer 25

Speaking as a woman who has been married - I would see no reason for either song to be forbidden.

Many good points were brought up by the previous posters.  This is a wedding, and the start of a lifetime (hopefully!) with someone you love.  Compromise should be somewhere in there.  Were they to be vulgar songs concerning abuse or hatred or racism, then they would certainly be worth putting your foot down.

And the issues of further trouble down the line is most certainly one to be taken seriously.  Should this be worth making a huge fuss over now, what situation in the future (with ten times the gravity of this one) would cause an irretrievable breakdown of the marriage?

Many people do play crazy songs at their weddings.  Do some more looking up on YouTube and you should find the couple that had their first dance to 'Thriller' (and similarly choreographed at that!).  Many people play (and encourage attendees to dance to) "Electric Slide", which is something I see as less sensible in a wedding reception than either of those two.

And who feels that the implied message of the second one is even what is meant by choosing that song?  Does he feel that way?  Does he frequently joke or even seriously converse about that being how he feels getting 'tied down' will be like?  That is actually a song I like as well as my Honey does.  If we chose to play it (at a possible future wedding), it will be for a reason.

(speaking for myself, though I am sure that there are some who share my views)

That being - a wedding reception is a great place to continue the wonders of the ceremony in a slightly less formal manner.  And with as much as I would want to hear love songs all night, I don't want it to feel like an overdose.  I don't want it to feel like it is signifying something that should solely dictate my whole marriage.  I want the night to include things which not only both of us, but either of us singly, would enjoy or normally do.  I feel that those songs are upbeat enough and would not retract from my feelings for him, nor vice versa.

As has been stated before - this is neither a "his" wedding nor a "hers" wedding, but a "THEIR" wedding.  Together the choices should be made, but with respect to any differences the couple may have.

Answer 26

In my case, groom's family is taking care of the D.J. expenses, so it is a no brainer - he plays whatever he wants to play with smart suggestions from me and others.  And the D.J. will probably take requests, especially from the wedding party (the groom's side is huge into music and bands).

No way I could say no... and no way I would want to.  

If this is just the "tip of the iceberg" to the larger issue - you're afraid he's not ready for marriage or he's perhaps having a bad attitude, or making inappropriate jokes... whatever, then you need to have a conversation about that... the song is not that long - I've probably spent longer typing this out!  lol

Good luck, congrats, etc.

Make him happy - and make him play your favorites too.  The main thing is variety, no 2 songs will make or break the wedding.  OK, let's do your song, and I've got one too.  How many more should we select in advance, do you think?

;)  Have a great wedding - don't try t make it perfect!  MAKE IT YOUR OWN, FOR THE TWO OF YOU TO ALWAYS REMEMBER.  (He will always remember the way you dance to his song... go for it!  Fun wedding dances are all the rage with that new reality tv show.)