Ladies: Do you like a challenge when it comes to men or do you enjoy being pursued?

Question

I don't know if I"m the only one, but guys pursuing me becomes very mundane. Sure, I like the compliments, but it's not enough to cause me to be attracted and I can lose interest easily.

I take much pleasure in making the first move or pursuing a man that might take a little work...I don't know why! I even have a fetish for role-playing "begging" during s*x, but get turned off when a guy begs me.

Sure, people might think it's desperate or maybe I'm not getting anything as to why I would rather make the first move and be forced to "work for something", but it's just that I find all the guys hitting on me and putting me on a pedestal to be unexciting.

Any other women like this? They say men like a challenge, but what about women? I talked to a few dommes who had female clients that enjoyed begging, so I guess I'm not alone. ;)

Answer 1

I hardly ever hit on women in a bar, for instance, or at work.

I might flirt, but only if the woman comes to me first.

Answer 2

Definitely being pursued, I rarely if ever make the 1st move--but I do send out hints though.

Answer 3

I'm not interested in those useless flatteris but I don't want to feel that I have to try and catch him and force him to like me. Personally I want a guy to be completely besotted and in love with me at frst sight.

Answer 4

Women are hypocrites.  You say your egalitarian.  You say youre confident and dont mind making the first move... even usually arrogant, making references to your sexuality and your self-declared ability to manipulate men with your feminine wiles.  But then you are so afraid of rejection because you are so down on yourselves that men are always forced to make the first move.

Answer 5

I know what you mean, I disliked being chased too. I have never bothered playing games with the opposite s*x. If I liked a man I would ask him out. If I disliked a man I told him so ..... I don't see the sense in a man chasing the woman after she says 'no'....it then becomes creepy/stalking IMO.

Answer 6

yeah I mean usually attractive women who happen to also be intelligent see it as " i'm flattering you to get in your underwear.end of" whereas we really want a little flirtation, dirty jokes, but not too close. the thrill of the chase.

Answer 7

I like being pursued, but I'm not afraid of a challenge, either.

Answer 8

I'm gonna be very honest and say that the traditional "chase" is starting to get on my nerves. I'm tired of this notion that states that even if I'm interested in him, I should make him come to me. I wish I could comfortably chase what it is that I want -- getting his attention, winning his affection and ultimately winning the prize -- and not be judged negatively by it.

Answer 9

I don't enjoy being pursued for a guy I dislike. So to me is simple like this: If I like someone He knows, and I He don't, He knows too.