Ladies: Do you lose respect for a man that doesn't work?

Question

Assuming there is no kind of disability involved and this is out of his free choice.

If so, why?

Answer 1

Well there are many reasons for him not to be working...like school or SAHD.  Id be fine with those.

If the wife is working two jobs struggling to pay the bills and feed the kids and the hubby wont stop playing WoW....thats a problem (I couldnt make that up, a friend of mine is dealing with this)

Answer 2

I lose respect for ANYONE who doesn't work, regardless of gender, unless they are so filthy rich that they don't have to.

Answer 3

No, I can understand anybody not wanting to work.  Work is very tedious.  My husband would be delighted to be able to give up work if he could afford it, and I would be delighted if he could too.

Answer 4

I lose respect for ANYONE who doesn't work. Being a housewife is fine because you have a family to take care of. However, a single, able bodied, childless person should not be sitting around watching sports or Oprah all day.

Answer 5

Yes,I don't respect a man who does not work with a lot of excuses that he can't find a job,,,his boss is mean that he has to quit . They even stoup as low as they can get to be supported by an older woman as their lover it is a fact ,I have seen some happened to friends and  to where I work. No sireee, not I will not get involve with a spineless guy if he is the last man on Earth.

Answer 6

its not that i wouldnt have any respect for him i would just think he is a bum.

Answer 7

It depends on the situation. If he was a full time college student or a stay at home dad, then no definitely not. However, if he were just mooching off of someone else and had no motivation to do anything with his life, then yes.

Answer 8

HECK YEAH.

cuz he lazy and basically expecting you to take care of you two....if ya'll together.

so he ain't no type of man for that.

Answer 9

If a man chooses not to work to support his self then there's no way he could be a man about supporting his house hold and take care of his family. Typically it's the man's responsibility to make sure the family is taken care of. That's why they are head of house hold. With great power come great responsibility. A man has to earn his right to be called head of house hold. That means taking up responsibility. So yes I would lose alot of respect for a man that doesn't work. I don't worry about that because I'm head of my own house hold with my own income. That's the beauty of being independent. No man can push you around as if you were totally helpless.

Answer 10

unless he has some sort of inheritance or something and doesn't have to

I would say yes. A man should want to work. Man or woman who is not disabled should have a job or at least be in school.

Answer 11

Yes, if he's just being a lazy bum, I respect people with motivation and drive, if they aren't working that shows they won't be able to be my equal. I'm not saying that to be snootty, it's just reality. If you are a highly motivated person, you can't be with a man that vedges all day on the couch and never works, it'd drive you mad!

But it goes both ways, a woman can also not have a job and just want to lay around all day and she'd be fine with a man like that.

I don't just have problems with MEN that don't have jobs, but with anyone, I don't like people who are lazy living on tax payers dollars, if they just don't WANT to work. It is another thing if they are disabled or single moms and so on.

There are situations where it's ok to not have a job for a while and I understand that. My bf lost a job for the dumbest reason that he LOVED. He's a man of very few words and never said it outright, but it hurt him to loose his job a lot. So when he wanted to sit on my couch and do nothing for a while I understood. But after about 2 months of that, I told him it was time to get his a** back out there and get a job! lol He's working again now.

Answer 12

If he has enough money not to work, fine (although I'd still wonder how he wouldn't go out of his mind with boredom). If he just intends to leech off people for the rest of his life, no, for obvious reasons.

Answer 13

Depends on the situation, if he's just lazy, then yes! If he couldn't help it, or has another way to support himself, then not as much.

Answer 14

no.

Answer 15

I lost respect for anyone who doesn't work unless one of the following applies to them

1)  Disabled or elderly

2)  Staying at home with children and not collecting welfare to do it

3)  Has enough money that their family and responsibilities are fully taken care of

Other than that, you should be working.

Answer 16

I don't know any person who does not work just because. I don't know why some one would do that, how this persons suppose to buy food or pay rent??? Is that actually possible?... Not in my country, everything costs, and there's not exists unemployed support.

So if u mean, He stays at home instead his wife, that doesn't mean he doesn't work, that just means he works at home.

Answer 17

depends on the situation i would think.

what if he's a student or he decides to stay home to take care of the kids while the other half works?

Answer 18

I tend to think it's a little questionable when ANYONE doesn't work, regardless of s*x. The exception of course (other than the things you mentioned) is if the person is a homemaker, but that is working to me, anyway.

So, stay at home dads are fine by me, but if you're not even doing that, then I'd have to wonder what the point to your existence is.

Answer 19

I think everyone should work, unless they are independently wealthy everyone should have some type of job. And stay at home mom is a 24/7 job.

Answer 20

If he isn't producing anything or at least helping as much as possible, then yes! Since women's lib. men have sit back and do nothing except act like women. We need a serious change in the world.

Answer 21

Yes.  Because someone who chooses to be idle and unproductive is simply a large child.

Answer 22

If it's out of laziness yah, i like men who are hardworking

Answer 23

Of course, what kind of person settles for doing nothing... Even if they had money out the wazoo, work builds character.  But a regular person who doesnt feel like working just cause...thats sad and pathetic.