Ladies: Do you think...?

Question

This is a question for the ladies.

Do you think you make it hard on men to be directly honest with you by the way you react when you're told something you don't like.

obvious example: does this make me look fat?

And second question- why ask if you don't want to know???

Answer 1

Well if I ask do I look fat in this you can tell me the truth cause I really dont give a rat butt...atleast you are keeping me from going out in public and making a fool of myself....so women ask just to see what you will say...some women feel that if you lie and tell them no then you love them...now lets be honest sometimes a man will say no and be telling the truth...it just depends on how they say it, facial expression, and what they do afterwards...but I really dont care cause if it was the other way around and my man ask me shoot of course I am going to tell the truth cause

relationships are based on honesty and trust....peace

Answer 2

Um, I would ask my friends that but I would never ask a guy cause i know he'd probably lie anyway.

Answer 3

Actually when im asking someone if something makes me look fat, I want them to be honest because it saves me from public humiliation! Any woman who asks such a question as a way of fishing for compliments is with the wrong guy, because most men are very complimentary when they love their wives or girlfriends and theres no need to fish!

Answer 4

This is actually the reason why I never ask- "Do I look fat?"  I might ask if he likes the outfit I am wearing- and if there are obvious problems with it that I missed, I would expect him to tell me.

From what I have seen, when a woman asks that sort of question, they are looking for reassurance, or fishing for compliments (which I don't agree with).  In that case, as a man, the best thing you could do is offer her the reassurance that she needs.  If she wants an honest answer about how the clothes fit, she'll ask a girlfriend.  Our partners often see the best of us- If a man loves a woman, he won't see her as "fat", but cuddly, voluptuous, etc.  So usually, when he answers- "no"- that is what he means.

Answer 5

I never ask questions like that. I don't need a second opinion.

Sometimes, I will react badly to something I don't want to hear. But that's usually something they would have had a hard time saying, anyway.

Answer 6

Women who ask these kinds of questions are fishing for compliments, not looking for an honest answer. They are often insecure, or they are with men who rarely compliment them and this is the only way to get some positive attention.

Answer 7

No, we ask because we want the truth - we don't want to wear something unflattering. But like any question from anyone, you shouldn't hurt their feelings. My hubby will say 'Yes, that isn't very flattering on you but you still look beautiful'.

Answer 8

I don't think I do.  If I ask a question, I hope I get an honest answer.  That being said, there is a right way to deliver sensitive criticism without seeming like a jerk!