Ladies & Gentleman I need your help!?

Question

My wife of 20 years has always dressed appropriately. Really very low key. Recently she has been buying lip plumper, gettting her hair colored, perfume, make-up, wearing clothes that disclose her big rear. She would typically wrap a coat around her to hide her big butt. Now she likes to show it off I think. Well my wife is a professional but lacks street sense and is not emotionally strong enough to navigate thru this world in this manner. Is she seeking attention now that she is 45 or what. Does she not love me anymore? Is she wanting lots of attention from other men. Of course our s*x life is great and I fully appreciate her body and let her know it., but I thought dressing like a **** was for women that were abused, w***e, unskilled at anything else or looking for someone new? Does she have low self esteem and is acting out? Is this her way of just pushing my buttons and getting me worked up. I don't want co -worker our son's friends saying "d**n your mom's hot". Is it too much to ask to keep it some what modest. Do women go thru some type of sexually charged time in their life. She has been having huge orgasms and really likes deep penetration as of late. What does all this mean. Is she having a change of life and advertising for ne potential mates? I guess I'm a little paranoid because when I was 25 one of my girl friends started dressing s**y and this led to a lot of attention, which led to many choices which led to leaving me for someone she met helping her fix a flat tire. I am very successfull, good-looking, body builder and great dad/father. Whats going on with her changing and am I being paranoid or should I be concerned. How do I talk to her about the way she dresses setting her up with what could potentially create problems for our relationship. I'm trying to protect our relationship, but I think she only pushes the envolope further with letting it all hang out there. How do you put an end to this non-sense?

Answer 1

Nick, it is possible that your wife might be going through some type of a mid life crisis where she feels she needs more. Tell her everyday that you love her and that you like the way she looks. She needs to know that you still care for her and that you love her. Maybe she is dressing this way to get a rise out of you and to have you maybe get some old feelings back. This is okay, I don't think she is stepping out on you. I think she is just wanting your attention. Nick please just talk to her. I think she might just be wanting that. Find out what she is after. You deserve to know what is going on. Take her out for a nice dinner and treat her like you used to. Hope this helps you. Good luck

Answer 2

Honestly, your wife is probably feeling like she's getting older and worries about being unattractive. Media is beginning to make normal size women feel s**y again, stick thin models are going out of style. Your wife is probably feeding off this to make herself feel s**y and desirable again. Instead of assuming her "new style" is meant to impress other men, take it as her way of trying to impress you. If you find her attractive, tell her. "Man, those new jeans make your butt look AMAZING baby, you know just what I need don't you" whispered in her ear at the right time will make her feel fabulous. Most likely the transformation has more to do with her need to be attractive to herself more then a need to catch the attention of other men. Just let her know she's getting your attention and you like what you see. When she realizes she's incredible in your eyes, she will probably calm down a bit. If you push at her and create anxiety in her then your going to achieve the opposite and she's going to feel a greater need to feel beautiful. Just stand by her, love her, let her know you appreciate her, and your wife will come through this.  

Answer 3

For goodness sakes! Her dressing up is no crime! Have you stopped to think that maybe she's dressing up to be pretty for you??

That maybe she just wants to show you that she may be getting older but you still have 1 hot mama on your hands?

Who cares if one of your sons co-workers thinks she's hot? That should thrill you to know that a young man thinks you're woman is attractive! That's exactly when you smile, appreciate what you got, and tell the young man "I know, hope you young pups are as lucky to have someone as great as her someday!"

The only way her dressing up is going to cause you any problems with your relationship, is if you let it. It isn't HER fault that YOUR insecure!

How do you put an end to this non-sense? Easy, get over yourself. Be glad she CARES about her appearance and isn't suffering from a low self esteem. Stop thinking about you, you and you.. and start SUPPORTING HER in feeling good about herself.  You don't hear her telling you to stop body building because it's making you look good, do you? Of course not, because she cares, and knows it's something that makes you feel good about yourself. So why take away something that makes her feel good about herself from her?

Besides, she's been with you 20 years, give the woman credit, she is NOT your ex that dumped you for the guy that changed her tire. She IS your wife, the mother of your child/children. Just because she wants to feel pretty on the outside doesn't mean she's going to love you any less.