Ladies/Girls!! Could a girlfriiend make me happy?

Question

Im a guy im 28 and find life a little boring! Ive done lots of stuff but ive always wanted a girlfriend. Im a bit overweight and have been rejected alot. I dont have any confidence anymore i was bullyed in school (because i was fat) until i got too big for older kids to bully at about 15, im 6'3 and 275lbs. Ive asked girls out in the past and always been turned down, even by the ones i got on really well and felt a connection with. I fell in love once with a girl who already had a boyfriend, she said we were soulmates and meant to be together and i believed her. I told her i wanted to spend all my time with her and wake up with her in the mornings and go to bed with her at night she said she felt the same and i had my first and only sexual experience with her. This was 6 yrs ago, i told her how insecure i was about things about my body and she promised to be my girlfriend and split with that guy. she never did, i was heartbroken. She told me she was just a mate and couldnt make me happy(but i felt happy with her) and i had to be happy on my own first. Is that true? I was heartbroken for a long time. I am not happy on my own, ive tried to lose weight and find it hard alone. I have old habits. I also have psoriasis and am losing my hair. I miss having some physical closeness with a girl, even just ahug like i used to get from supposed 'friends'! I also want s*x, what if i visit a prostitute, would anyone understand? I want to be confident and good at s*x so next time i meet a girl so i can make her happy! Help.

Answer 1

You need to find happiness within yourself first. Otherwise, being in a relationship will initially make you feel happy but then your issues will start coming up and eventually you will once more be miserable.

You need to value yourself. Look after yourself by treating your body right - exercise, eat well, see a naturopath for advice and herbal and nutritional remedies to treat your skin, hair and emotions - and you will start to feel a lot better about yourself and those more-confident vibes will reach out and attract women to you.

In addition to the physical work, you need to become more aware of yourself and your values in life - both positive and negative - so you know what motivates you and deters you. It's hard work but really valuable. Consider a retreat such as Vipassana meditation that is quite mentally gruelling but so worth it to understand happiness within yourself.

Also, are you involved in any social or sports groups? Getting out and mixing with people will expose you to more opportunities for meeting someone. Maybe even a weight loss support group, where you are around people that understand the issues.

Good luck.

Answer 2

i feel u bro but im not like u

Answer 3

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Answer 4

you have no confidence,no high self esteen u need to find that all first before u even think about making someone else happy,do u think a girl will want to get with u while ur like this?maybe thats what puts the girls off ,you get out there start the gym everyday start looking at ur self everyday in the mirror and forget that girl from six years back u need to think of today and the future you will start attracting girls when u walk out the door and they see a confident guy standing there