Ladies: Have you ever seen your husband/bf cry?

Question

If you did, what did you do? How did it make you feel?

I'm asking because I saw my bf of TWO years cry for the very first time yesterday (his friend died). I was so startled I didnt even know what to do. It mad my heart break worse than ever before; I knew he must've been hurting a lot.

Afterwards he seemed embarassed, too.

Answer 1

Yes.  I've seen my guy cry when his step-father died and a number of other times as well.  I just hold him and comfort him until he feels better.  It brings us closer together.

Answer 2

Yes, I have... I have to say, when the man in my life- shows his sensitive side, once in awhile.. it means a lot to me. It reminds me, they too, are human.  

Answer 3

As we all know, men are the worst at showing their emotions and are often embarrassed because they've been programed not to show how they feel, so when they do, they don't know how to deal with it. When my husband cried in front of me for the first time, I wasn't sure what to do, but now I know that just sitting with him and letting him talk is the best way to help him through whatever is making him cry.  

Answer 4

yes i have. for different reasons, most were due to deaths in his family. i always try to console him, hug him, make him feel better. i hate to see him cry!

Answer 5

Yes, I have seen my husband cry, and it is jarring cause they don't do it often.

Answer 6

Yes I have.   He's human and has emotions.  I thought nothing of it.

Answer 7

When somebody close dies men cry too. Yes, I've seen my husband cry and it was under those circumstances. The only time I ever saw my brother (at 32 yrs old) cry was when our grandmother died. Some men feel that it's unmanly to cry. It is such a surprise when we see what they perceive as weakness, but they have feelings too.

Answer 8

The first time I saw him cry was when we were having problems. The most recent time was when he had to put down his cat that he had since he was a little kid. I just hugged him and told him I loved him. And I wound up crying with him because it does just break my heart to see him so sad.

Answer 9

My hubby cries more than I do. I hold him when he does. I love a man who is not afraid to show his emotions.  

Answer 10

yeah he cried when when he was doing his vows when we got married i was sobbing too and also when our 2 beautiful kids where born he was sobbing then too

Answer 11

Yes.  When his mom got the final diagnosis that she wouldn't make it.  It was gut wrenching.  I just tried to keep it together so that I could be strong when he wasn't.  The last thing he needed was me crying too.  I did that in private.  The day she passed we finally cried together.  

Answer 12

I fell in love with my former husband because he was able to show his emotions.  Just hold him and don't let your bf go!!!

Answer 13

No but I would feel as exactly like you did, it would break my heart.. In fact I bet I'd start crying harder than him and cuddling him and stroking his hair and being like "aww.. it's ok baby, let it all out". lol.

Maybe let him know that he shouldn't be embarrassed because you would never judge him no matter what he did and that you admire him for being man enough to show his feelings.

I'm sorry to hear about ur bf's friend :(

Answer 14

It effects us, because we don't see it often. They hold in their pain, and many have been raised and told   YOUR NOT A MAN IF YOU CRY!!

That's a crock and the men who try and raise their son's this way are being abusive!!

Yes, I have seen my ex's cry.  Their human   why wouldn't they.

Well of course he cried if he lost his father.  Wouldn't you??

Answer 15

yes the myth is not true  guys cry too...

the first time i seen him cry was when  his sister was in the hospital and they said she may not make it .. it did break my heart and it made me hurt too .however  you just need to stand by him and tell him you are there if he wants to talk about it. that is all you can really do . just be there to catch him... sorry to hear about his friend that is really sad ..

Answer 16

sure, men have just as much feelings and the right, but as you noticed, yes, they get embarrassed, worse sometimes.

   There was for a few hundred years, the teaching to boys, that men are tough, the strong ones, the bread winners, head of the family and  

"Real men don't cry" or show emotion.

    Believe it, because most men still carry this thought, it has been the ruin of many family's and relationships. Men are slowly coming to terms with it, but incredible slowly.

    My father was raised without men around they had all been lost to the war. He had a mom and 2 older sisters. No one to show him how to be a man or father, he too was taught men don't cry.

     This show no emotion quite destroyed our family. When my brother, his only son, died suddenly. He too only cried in private, not even around my mother. He could comfort none, nor accept comfort from anyone. It took time but he finally was overcome with grief from holding it in and came apart at his brothers sons wedding. Asking his brother why he was left with 3 sons and he had none.

    Because of my own pains with this attitude, i deliberately went out of my way to teach my son's "men do cry and have every right to do so".

     I mean think about it, how often after a good cry, do you feel, lighter, more at ease. Crying is a release of tension, emotion, stress, grief. Men would be a dam sight better off, if they did allow themselves to cry openly.