Ladies..I've been with my boyfriend for 7 years, should we get married?

Question

the thing is my family keeps askign me when are we going to get married, they say that hes not taking me serious and he'll get too confortable and wont ask me to marry him...even my friends ask the same question and tell me its too long and I shouldnt be waiting ..I feel like they are putting to much preasure on me

we've been together for 7 years now, and living together for 2, we've even talked about getting married and the wedding and all that...but he wants me to finish college first and to get a stable job, I'm just have one more semster to graduate.. and I know for sure i'll have a job right after...so they dont see whats the difference now or later...we love each other a lot and we get along pretty good and I think things are good the way the are now..but my family and even friends are putting preasure on me and I have my doubts now...I dont know if I should push my bf to marry me or should just wait and let things happen. what do you guys think?by the way I'm 27 he is 30. i think we are still young?

Answer 1

Some people are going to say that because he is living with you, he has got comfortable and is very unlikely to propose. Are you happy where you are? Dont let anyone force you into getting married. Leave it how it is if you are satisfied. However, if you really want to get married, you could propose to him?

Answer 2

Haven't u noticed yet, that u have been married for seven years, not formaly

Answer 3

It's too bad your family and friends are trying to rush you into marriage when you obviously have a great plan, a stable relationship, and a good head on your shoulders.

The next time they ask, tell them you are getting married July 26, 2018 or something. Maybe then they'll leave you alone.

:)

Answer 4

u're definetly the right age to get married! don't let ANYONE press u guys to get married if ur not ready for it, remember it's not ur family/friends' descision, it's urs...r u ready? don't hurry it up and get married, meybe u should go another year, make abselute sure u know u want to spend the rest of ur life with this person...if ur not 100% abselutely sure u want to do that then don't marrie him! ask urself these questions

1. do i want to spend the rest of my life with this man?

2. do i truly love him?

3. do i not just love him, but am i really good friends with him?

4. will he stay with me wen it gets tuff, and not leave me wen i need him most.

5. does he respect me, and my body?

6. does he love me truly for who i am inside?

7. and finally, is he willing to dedicate his whole life to me, and stay with me, only me and not go off with other women?

if even one of those questions is no, u shouldn't marry him....find out all u can about him that u don't allready know. find out good, and yes bad things, b4 ur married, so u don't find out after u guys r married, and have relationship troubles. that leads to divorce. that's the big thing u try to avoid in marriage, a BIG thing.

this is a really good question, and i think u should take all the time u can to consider marriage, don't jump too fast, and don't rush, if he truly loves u, then u 2 have all the time in the world to decide

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Answer 5

Well, first let me say, I think you and your bf are doing the right thing.  It is great that he sees the importance of your education and values your interest.  

I believe that once you are out of school and employed you will have more time to focus on your future plans and be able to plan around your income (that is playing it smart).  You are right to point out that you both are still young.  Obviously your family is crazy about this guy and anxious to have him become a part of the family and that is great.  

Stick to your plans and when the big day comes, what a family celebration and beautiful wedding it will be.  

I wish you much success and early congrats on completing college.  You and your bf would be an excellent role model for many of our young people today!  

I wish you both a lifetime of love, good health, and happiness.

God Bless

Answer 6

well, both of you guys are already in that stage to get married. 27 is still young, but 27 is already a right time to get married. It doesn't matter what your family and friends say to you..it's your choice and his. 7 years is a really long time, but i understand that he wants you to finish college first. It is better to finish collage and get a stabled job before getting married because it will help you guys in the future...you guys don't need to worry about getting a job or financial problems. Well, i think you should just wait till his ready. I think all he wants is for you and him to have a stabled job and have a future together before getting married. Don't worry, he will make everything worth while.  

Answer 7

HEK YES!!! THATS A LONG TIME!!!! HAHAHA JK BUT YEAH DO IT!!!!

Answer 8

It's not really about whether you are too young or not..because people have different levels of maturity. You might be 27 and not too sure whether it's time to get married regardless of whether you have a serious relationship for a long time...but someone else might be 27 and feel completely the opposite and ready to settle down even before that age. I think its one of those things that you should definetly talk to him about. ask him what his plans are with you, what future goals you have together but dont push too much on the fact that your family is pressuring you because you dont want him to feel pressured from you and your family.. just let him know its on ur mind.. but be open to any answer he might give you.

Answer 9

If it ain't broke, don't fix it.  You ARE young.  Forever is a long, long time.  

Answer 10

well me fiance and i  have been togethor for 10 yrs ,hes 8 yrs older than me, and he finally asked me to marry him last year , i think he lagged because we didnt have a house some men just want to be financialy stable before they propose ....good luck! everyone always told me "  why buy the cow if you get the milk for free"  , but i never gave up that he would one day ask me to mary him :)  

Answer 11

Well if he wants to wait until you finish school and get a job, why not?  Like you said, it's only one more semester.  

Don't let your family or friends pressure you into something you and your BF already clearly discussed as a couple and already made a decision on.  

You are not too young to think about getting married.

When the semester is over and you have a job, then make a romantic dinner one night and sit down to talk to him about getting engaged.  No one said you had to pick a date or anything just yet.

My husband (just got married 6/13/08) and I discussed getting engaged, but I was afraid he didn't know anything about diamonds or girl jewelry, so I picked out a ring I liked and circled it in a catalog and kept leaving it around the apartment.  He got the hint.

Good luck!

Answer 12

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wow

YES YES YESS!

Answer 13

How is pressuring him into marrying you now going to relieve your doubts?   You'll only be left wondering for the rest of your life if he really would have proposed on his own or not.  If you wait the short while that's left to finish school and get a job, and he follows through, then you'll know he was always serious.  If he doesn't follow through, then you'll know your friends and family were right.  But if that's really the case, you'd probably better off not marrying him at all.  Why would you want to marry a guy who had to be pushed into it?  That takes away from the meaning of the marriage if you ask me.

Answer 14

good for you that you know for sure what you want in life.  no one should push you into a life choice, and boy that goes double for people pushing others to have children.  

Answer 15

well first off if u guys love each other very very much and both are financially secure then why not   but please note alot of people who get married  end up getting divorced  make sure its something both of u guys want to do make saure there are no doubts or questions  good luck

Answer 16

Tell your friends to shut up about it so they don't put the pressure on you. I would wait untill after this next semmester, it's not that long of a wait.