Ladies.. What is my problem?!?

Question

I have no idea what my problem is! I have no sexual urge what-so-ever. I'm a 21 year old mother of one and engaged.. I can't seem to get in the mood to even start up anything with my fiance, nothing at all. It seems like every time he tries, I get irritated. I fear it's gonna ruin my relationship. I'm embarassed to talk to my doctor about it because of my young age and afraid theres nothing she'll do to help being that I'm still quite young. I also try to explain to my fiance how I feel but he doesn't seem to understand, I'm not sure I'm even explaining it right. Somebody, please help. Whats wrong with me!?!

Answer 1

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Answer 2

you will find some answers here

http://www.talksexwithsue.com/lowsexdriv...

Answer 3

take ur time......appreciate the sense of feeling. tell ur partner not to rush u. tell him wot u would like him to do and when.

Answer 4

nothing is wrong with you... personally i think you just need to relax, take a load off and spoil yourself. your a mom so that puts a lot of stress on a person, try asking one of your relatives if they want to watch your child for the weekend or something and spend that time with your fiance, don't make the entire time about s*x but relax with one another, go out and do something.... dont make yourself feel like s*x its something you NEED to do, and before you guys start having s*x (if it happens) you should play around with each other if you know what i mean... make it fun and make sure your in a comfortable environment or even mix it up and do it in the kitchen! good luck!  

Answer 5

nothings wrong hun . dont worry

um... try ,you making the first move. srry im not much of a help :(

Answer 6

u need to talk to ur doctor because that ruins a relatonship some people are just like that  

Answer 7

First of all, don't panic.  What you're experiencing is nothing new.  Your gynecologist will know what to do.  There are many causes of female sexual dysfunction, and some are psychological, but some are very physical.

Some forms of hormonal birth control are well known to cause FSD, either lack of arousal or "muted" orgasms.  So talk to them about possibly getting off of it before taking matters into your own hands.  Some, you need to wean off of them over time, and others you just have to finish the month.

Another thing to consider is that circulations can cause arousal problems in women just like they would in men.  You may be diabetic, hypothyroid, or be riding a bicycle too much, smoking too much, or wearing the wrong kind of underwear.

If you had a s*x drive and then suddenly it stopped, and there was no particular trauma, then it's likely that there is a physical cause.

A psychological cause that could come on suddenly though, is fear of a sexual power balance shifting in your boyfriend's favor.  When relationships get serious, women sometimes panic a little because suddenly the s*x is supposed to happen.  He starts expecting it, and you unconsciously start denying it because somehow deep down you got the idea (likely from parents and society) that s*x is the main source of women's power in relationships.

Doing things for your world, and perhaps asking for a little more romantic reinforcement from your partner, without pressure to have s*x, might help.  Also, keep in mind that there are many things you can do with your partner sexually, that don't involve intercourse.  This will at least tide him over with the biological urge, and tide you over as far as a need for closeness and expression of intimacy, until the arousal problem is solved.

Who knows?  Helping him out might help you out, if you know what I mean.  :: wink ::

Answer 8

Hi, I don't think that there's anything wrong with you.  I feel exactly the same.  I love my husband and I still fancy him but I just don't feel like having s*x anymore.  I'm also a mother of one but I'm suffering from slight depression at the moment so I think that's the reason why I don't want s*x.  My husband doesn't understand.  I've tried talking to him but he says "we're young and we should be having s*x a few times a week and not a few times a month".  I also get irritated when my husband tries to get close to me.  At the moment the baby is still sleeping in our room so that's my excuse.  I'm also very tired from looking after the baby and don't feel like I have any energy left at the end of the day.  All I want to do is sleep.

Maybe you should seek some counselling.  I've suggested it to my husband but he didn't think it was necessary. Good luck

Answer 9

It just happens sometimes.

Just talk to your doctor. She can help.

Answer 10

u sound ok