Ladies: Why is this bothering me so much? Co-worker depressing me?

Question

I work as a mail clerk at a company, I get lots of compliments, I am known for being a hard worker, but lately a co-worker of mine has been telling me some people (didn';t give names) think I'm a "goof", meaning I have made some dumb mistakes on the job. For example : One time I was going to be out for 3 days, I made the mistake of emailing the entire company that.....

And he said personnel "laughed at me".....if they laughed at me, how come they say hi to me every time I see them?

Also, I guess they might have said it because I would get things, materials at a warehouse and sometimes bring the wrong things back.......

The thing is, this same guy keeps telling me "don't stay here for more than 5 years, you probably won't move up" and stuff like that.....and I told him the truth. I am a college grad who has his own career aspirations and this is the job I like that I can support myself with and pay the bills.

But yesterday, and today he said "You can make more money"

Answer 1

he prob either doesnt like u or thinks of u as competition and wants u out.  either way, do whats best for YOURSELF!  don't let him influence your decisions.

Answer 2

Bullies are funny people. Who knows why they must torture in order to feel good. I do not buy the "they-are-insecure" explanation. I have not known a moment of confidence in my life and I do not bully people. Tell your boss that this guy is harassing you. It will only get worse if you wait.

Answer 3

It sounds like your doing well at your job & enjoy the work. I see no problems with what you've described about your job or your work. You're getting raises, which is typically a sign of good (great) job performance.  I think it's time you stopped paying attention to this guy and trust your instincts.

Everybody makes mistakes from time to time, it happens.  Some people may think they are funny at the time - that doesn't mean they don't like you.  It just means they think it's funny that it happened, people are like that sometimes.  Learn from your mistakes and perform better next time.

If you have doubts about your performance, talk to your supervisor or other coworkers who depend on your ability to do your job.  Ask them if everything they're getting from your department is OK. Check and see if you could be doing anything differently to help them out.  Be proactive. Keep it professional.

If this guy keeps bothering you, talk to your supervisor and get his feedback.  My personal take ... have a chat with the guy and tell him to back off the gossip and insulting comments.

Good Luck!

PS. I'm not a lady, but I thought I'd chime in anyway.

Answer 4

tHE TRUE PROBLEM IS THAT YOU'RE LETTING EVERYTHING GET TO YOUR HEAD.

A JOB IS A PLACE FOR YOU TO WORK, AND MAKE A LIVING.

NOT TO MAKE FRIENDS AND GET ALONG WITH EVERYONE.

DONT TAKE EVERYTHING SO SERIOUSLY, IT'S OBVIOUS THEY'RE JEALOUS OF YOUR SUCCESS.

DON'T LET THEM BREAK YOU DOWN.

WHAT MATTERS IS THAT YOU KNOW YOU'RE A HARD WORKER..

KEEP UP THE GOOD WORK..

WHEREVER THERE'S SUCCESS, THERE ARE HATERS.

ALWAYS.

GOODLUCK WITH THAT.

(STICK TO THAT JOB..THEY'RE JUST TRYING TO GET RID OF YOU SO THEY CAN TAKE YOUR PLACE)

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Answer 5

It is wrong for you to ask the world for their opinion. Find things out on your own. Tell him to get lost and keep doing what makes you happy.........like being a ****