Ladies and Gentleman, Would you stick around?

Question

A man that is a good friend of mind told me a situation he was in: 5 years ago he suspected his wife of cheating. later he found out 100 percent that it was true she was cheating. He held it in for 9 months and finally confronted her about it. She admitted that she had been not only been cheating, but cheating with her husbands brother. He forgave her, not because hes a loser but because he wanted to have a family together with his 3 kids.

Did he make a mistake? To this day he has never brought it up with her again.

Answer 1

wow

im sorry to hear that about your husband..

if i found out that my husband was sleeping with my sister, omg..it would be over in a heartbeat

so i have no clue how he got that past him.

i think he did. but the three kids..im not sure.

Answer 2

no way

Answer 3

if they are happy and he forgot her is ok! if she still cheating and they are having problems he sure made a mistake! take care and tell him good luck!

Answer 4

Possibly. Those who cheat are prone to do so again. Not only did she cheat him but so did his brother. I personally would have to walk away. From both of them.

Answer 5

That kind of story is supposed to end in a blood bath ...

Well, if he's happy with his family now, I guess he was right.

Answer 6

No dealing with cheating is bad enough but a sibling is just to much disrespect.

Answer 7

Whoa! I would not have stuck around-because I would NEVER be able to get that image out of my mind. I know everyone says stay for the kids-and that's great-but my kids would rather have a single happy mommy than a depressed married mommy. But-if he was able to move on good for him-I don't think there is anything wrong if it's right for them.

Answer 8

No she made the mistake. He has a pure heart and maybe sees what she is worth and wants to help her out.

That's a really messed up situation for a brother to do that to another brother.

I would have left her right away and then probably beat the h**l out of my brother and never talk to him again.  

Answer 9

Not everyone ends a marriage because of cheating.  Some people aren't irrational.  I know.  Hard to believe.

Answer 10

wether or not he made a mistake is not for us to judge.

He is the only one who would know if he made a mistake.

I guess forgiving someone could never be a mistake.

Answer 11

That is hard.

I would kick her out and beat my bro or distance away from him for a while.

I would take the kids.

I would show my wife that I dont need her to show her that I cared for her. I would not be dating other women out of revenge. I would pray to god to hold me together because I would be ready to explode in a rage that may land me in jail for life lol.

Answer 12

Is she still seeing the brother? There's no way I could sit on that info for 9 months... I'd question if all three kids are even his...

I can't say for certain, without knowing the people involved, but I seriously doubt I would stay.  

Answer 13

Man, husband's brother, can never get away from it, not a mistake to repair family,,,,but hubby's brother

Answer 14

WOW.  I feel his pain, she is truly blessed....beyond words.  Talk about UNCONDITIONAL LOVE.!!!

Answer 15

IDK It would be hard!!!!;-{

Answer 16

Not only couldn't I stick around,  I wouldn't stick around.  Forgiving is the easy part.  It's the forgetting that I have the problem with.

Answer 17

i'd stick around if i could trust her never to try it again , but since i'm never speaking to my brother again i'd probably not forget it . i'd stay but i would'nt stay long.

Answer 18

I think he's crazy. Cheating is bad enough by itself, let alone with his brother! That's sick. I think it's nice & responsible that he wants to stay together for his kids but she doesn't respect him at all (at least that's what it seems like).  

Answer 19

My husband had an affair a year ago. It only lasted for a few weeks before I found out. He was extremely regertful and agreed to marriage counseling. I made the choice to try to make our marriage work and we are still together.

I don't have a sister, but I don't know that I could do what your friend did. I would have a harder time forgiving my sister than I would my husband in that case. On the other hand, men think differently than women, and I understand his reasons for wanting to make the marriage work. My husband has told me that he wishes he'd stayed with his first wife because his kids went through a living h**l when they got divorced. All three have difficulty in their adult relationships because both of their parents have been married 3 times (their mother just divorced her third husband last year). One of the MANY reasons I wanted to work out our problems was that I did not our my stepkids to have to go through yet another parent getting divorced.

The fact that your friend waited almost a year before confronting his wife says to me that he is afraid of confrontation. I hope they are getting some professional help. I don't think my husband and I would have made it if we hadn't gone to the marriage counselor. I would even suggest he go to a counselor alone to deal with the feelings of anger, hurt and betrayal.

Answer 20

Forever a dad... sacrifice for your little ones... good call...  

Answer 21

Makes me wonder whos kids are whos . After all they would still resemble him

Answer 22

Yes sir he did even though he wanted to have children this man shows no passion in his life he should have gotten a divorce from this evil ***** and left her. There are plenty fish in the sea.

Answer 23

He sounds like a caring and very forgiving man. I personally think it is very good of him to give it another shot. Hopefully they are working through whatever issues or problems they had that caused her to stray in the first place, and it doesn't happen again.  

Answer 24

He did not make a mistake.  He chose to keep his family together and that is honorable.  I certainly hope his wife wised up and has been faithful since.

Answer 25

Your friend is truly a strong man.  I don't think that I could be that strong,  but people have an amazing ability to forgive.  For the sake of the family staying together, I think what this man is doing is admirable, however that is only if his wife has changed her ways.  I hope that he was able to forgive his brother as well.