Ladies and gentlemen.. I need your help?

Question

I am a grown woman now.

When I was an adolescent(age 15 then), I had a boyfriend(age 16 then). So one night I spent the night at his house, I was sleeping (pretending actually) at the time when all of a sudden one of his sister's friends (age 17) walked in. I felt him sit down the bed and I heard her voice. He said "I feel bad for being a little too friendly with you" to her. She said "you shouldn't be". So then I hear her ask him If he would give her a back rub, he went ahead and did that. I heard him tell her "You have some s**y underwear" while pulling on her thong.

I woke up and he looked hesitant and stayed on her for about 10 seconds. Then he got off. It's 5 years later, he says he wants me back and wants to marry me. I told him I won't have s*x with him until I'm married, he agrees to it. I sound naive, but really I am not, but I am BEING naive in this situation, because I care for him still and might still be foolishly into him.

Men what does his actions indicate ?

Answer 1

If he is really willing to agree to no s*x and wait till your married, he's a keeper.  Be certain he does understand that no s*x means no s*x. With you or anyone else.  The other side of the coin is, you say, "I care for him still ".  Well how about love and does he love you as well?

Answer 2

Guys that age are always horny, and I'm sure he would have been happy to get it on with anything in a skirt.

But you say five years have passed. He might have changed by now, he might have grown up.

I wouldn't hold an event from five years ago against him. But you need to figure out what kind of a man he has grown into. Be very careful in making your decision. He might be a great guy now. It's up to you to figure it out.

Answer 3

His actions indicate that he is a moron at best.  It takes a moron to cheat on your girl in the first place, but to do it in the same room...that's a new low of intelligence.  Even an ape could figure out that there's a risk of waking you, or that you might be faking it as in this case.  You need to seriously ask yourself if you want to be with a mindless idiot.  By the way, the only reason he is hitting on you after 5 years is because he's desperate for some pie.  He'll say and do anything to get it, because that's what morons do.  If I were you I would run in the other direction.