Ladies (and gents too) please help me with my friend!! She doesn't care about herself? ?

Question

What would you rate her? Am I wrong for think low? I think she could be a lot higher but she doesn't even do simply things. Alot of the time it doesn't look like she brushes her hair & she wears jeans, tenis 365 days a year. It doesn't matter where she's going even if she's supposed to be dressed up. What can I do? What would you recommend in terms of beauty tips & grooming? I think she needs a spa day or something. She has really low self-esteem & she's really reserved. People make fun of her. She pretends it doesn't bother her but I think it does, and I think there's no need for it.

http://i351.photobucket.com/albums/q477/lpfff/me9.jpg

Answer 1

I hope this is really you because I'd be mad if you took my picture and asked the question without me knowing.

Answer 2

This photo tells us nothing, other than you are a very shallow friend.

If she is concerned about her appearance, then help her. Take her clothes shopping and do a spa day together and both of you can get makeovers.

If, however, she is perfectly content to wear jeans, style her hair as she pleases and not let other people bully her into living up to their ideals, then leave her alone. A real friend will not care what you look like.

Maybe you should go and be friends with the people who make fun of her; you really are no less superficial than they are. At least they are real enough not to pretend they are her friends while they disapprove of her appearance.

And seriously, if you put up that picture of her without her knowing, you are a lot worse than those who make fun of her. You have violated her privacy on top of everything else. What a terrible friend you are.

Answer 3

She is beautiful and should be treated like she is. She should get rid of you as a friend, ESPECIALLY for being so rude to do what you have just did(post her picture and tell your true thoughts about her)!  

Answer 4

no matter who, everyone could use a little improvement so the pic makes no difference.

Only you know if this particular person is happy with themselves or not. If they are a true friend of yours, they should have already confided in you thier feelings about themself. If she seems happy, then leave her alone. If you want to try a beauty day, make it for both of you, so that way she doesnt see it as you trying to make her different.

BTW, take the pic down. No friend would do something so disrespectful.