Ladies and men... I need your help?

Question

I am a grown woman now.

When I was an adolescent(age 15 then), I had a boyfriend(age 16 then). So one night I spent the night at his house, I was sleeping (pretending actually) at the time when all of a sudden one of his sister's friends (age 17) walked in. I felt him sit down the bed and I heard her voice. He said "I feel bad for being a little too friendly with you" to her. She said "you shouldn't be". So then I hear her ask him If he would give her a back rub, he went ahead and did that. I heard him tell her "You have some s**y underwear" while pulling on her thong.

I woke up and he looked hesitant and stayed on her for about 10 seconds. Then he got off. It's 5 years later, he says he wants me back and wants to marry me. I told him I won't have s*x with him until I'm married, he agrees to it. I sound naive, but really I am not, but I am BEING naive in this situation, because I care for him still and might still be foolishly into him.

Men what does his actions indicate ?

Answer 1

the guy is too quick to go on to talk about making love...well that might not be surprising but the real score is getting married from the simple bed conversation is not a guarantee to a good married life...do not take all of what he said and acted cause those might be all part of his erotic love...

Answer 2

Didn't I just answer this question, or is this DEJA VU' all over again?

Answer 3

You're only 20.  You're WAY too young to start thinking about marriage.  And this guy is not for you.  He's probably just trying to get in your pants and thinks if he says "marriage" you'll go for it.

Some guys are pricks.  This one definitely is.  Dump him and find a guy who respects you.

Answer 4

Ok.  Two statements....

1) The best way to predict future behavior, is studying what the person has done in the past.  This guy is a loser.

2) Before any person gets married, they have to ask themselves, is there any reason I might end up having to divorce this person?  He cheats.  If you divorce, it will probably be because he commits adultery.  Can you live with that?

Answer 5

Interesting. But you really need to get input from your sister, don't you?

Answer 6

I don't think he is right for you because you both do not share the same moral standards and that probably will not change with age or marriage. He seems to go great with his sister's friend who came in looking for him even if you were there, they are both disrespecful and self serving.

Answer 7

it's in his nature to be weak to temptations. but this should not barred you from giving him a chance to explain himself. and if you really love him, you should have understood that it is part of his being a "man". You should be alarmed instead if your boyfriend would do and say that to another male.

Final tip: Don't judge right away because it will not help you.

Answer 8

If he can't accept the fact that you're waiting until marriage then he is not right for you. Don't rush into something that you will regret.

Answer 9

If he could have fun with another girl in your presence (and it didnt bother him), then all this guy wants is physical relationship. Dont expect any genuine love from him.....he will continue to have relationship with other girls and will give you one excuse or the other. Its for you to decide if you are okay with this type of guy or you want an all for yourself guy.