Ladies - are you intimidated by attractive women?

Question

I have just moved and I am having a hard time creating friendships with other women. My hubby says it's because I'm young, pretty and slim - he claims that other women are intimidated by me. I don't see myself as better than anyone - I'm friendly to everyone - but I usually have an easier time getting along with men than women. I'm not butch - I DO like girlie things - I just can't stand catty remarks and gossip. Ladies - does anyone else experience this?

Answer 1

yes my ex girlfriends used to hate other attractive women and always sought to degrade them

Answer 2

no, i just like nice people.

Answer 3

Women are very careful not to bring attractive women anywhere near their husbands or boyfriends. It's also difficult  to have a very pretty friend when you are single and looking for a boyfriend. To have all the men look at her and not at you. So, yeah, it must be hard to be very pretty.

Answer 4

No, not at all.  However, I don't talk to anyone who seem unapproachable, like they are better than everyone else.

Answer 5

Maybe you ought to check that attitude you displayed in your previous question.

I don't think you are intimidating, it appears you just  lack tolerance and respect for people who have different values than yours.

Answer 6

"Looks will fade but dumb is forever".

--Judge Judy

That's probably why you are having trouble making friendships.

Answer 7

h**l no, I have more women that dislike me because I am attractive

Answer 8

you are my seperated twin. i am exactly the same way and have exactly the same problem. people act like you shouldn't judge others on things they can't help, and we can't help the way we look. if we lived in the same town i'd probably be your best friend.

Answer 9

Not me, but I've experienced it most of my life and find it pathetic how bad women can act towards one another.  Usually, the offenders are the ones that are insecure. Hopefully, you'll meet one confident one out the bunch.  Good Luck!

Answer 10

It's very possible for others to be intimidated by good looks, but I'm also bi..So, I don't mind seeing a pretty face.

It may sound shallow to publicly say that people are intimidated by your good looks, but I dare admit that this can be true. People just don't want to talk about it, because we don't want to come off as shallow and selfish.

Even if you're a really nice person or smart, being pretty along with that can cause people to be jealous. I've seen it happen numerous times, because girls don't want their boyfriends or husbands complimenting you or they don't want to lose the attention that they already get.

I think everyone should give the girl a break. She said she's friendly..It's not her fault she's pretty and slim. She's not a bad person. There are evil people out there that purposely want to make others miserable.

Answer 11

I am very similar to you (young, pretty, slim)  however I appreciate people for who they are.  I am laid back and not stuck on myself.  I know I look good, I know many of my friend's husbands check me out as well as other males I come into contact with, but I am not stuck on it.  In fact I VERY rarely mention my looks at all.  When complimented (which happens on a daily basis) I reply with a simple and gracious "Thank You", "How kind of you" or just "Thanks".  I would never blame them as a source of hardships.  Rather I would first take the initiative of asking people to go places and then truly look at how I was treating people, what I was saying, my mannerisms around people, etc.

Personally, I love being around attractive people (man or woman).  I find it very interesting to analyze just why I find them so attractive.  One of the most attractive women I know is 42 and overweight...age and weight may be beauty to you, but they beauty you are looking at is outward beauty.  Inner ugliness will always over shadow it.

Answer 12

I'm an attractive woman, and I have never felt intimidated by other attractive women, nor have I felt that other women have felt intimidated by me. (Because of my looks, anyway.)

Answer 13

I am. I am ashamed to admit it. I am 41 and slightly overweight. Most of my friends are  older than me. I have one very sweet friend who is 52 and looks like a knock-out. I feel so frumpy when I am around her. It's not her fault, she's sweet. It's my fault - I guess I am insecure. I think it may make things worse when she wears her teenage daughter's clothes. I will always be friends with her, the problem is ME NOT her. Being with her means it's in my face how much I've changed...how I've let myself go. I would not be friends with her if she had not really pursued a friendship with me. I know this sounds like High School, but I guess I assumed she'd only want to hang out with other beautiful people. She really went ut of her way to show me that she liked me for me. Keep trying...don't take it personal. It's not you.

Answer 14

its disguised as a very subtle form of jealousy.

and, women can be vicious little territorial b*****s

try not to let it get to you....

theyre gossiping the same about their 'friends' just as much,if not more.

Answer 15

My wife gets intimidated by young pretty slim women so yes they do become distant due to them being pretty. (It's always been like that)

Answer 16

from what i can tell, VERY few attractive women experience this. attractive women are always the ones with tons of friends, tons of admirers, and tons of specal treatment. not to mention, with men's varying tastes, a wide variety of women pass as attractive.

but i'll admit, i am intimidated by attractive women(most women). the unattractive ones probably dont get that much attention so they'll appreciate it if they get the impression i'm attracted to them whereas attractive women will probably just think "he's into me, i'm not into him, must get him off me".

Answer 17

I can be, to a degree.  I think a lot of women are, whether they admit to it or not.  But I also feel that perhaps other women have been intimidated by me- either because of my looks, or certain aspects of my personality. I come by it honestly- my mother is a very intimidating woman- to both men and women (she's very strong, very intelligent, and very forthright- it can be intimidating to those who aren't sure of themselves the way she is)

Women do tend to compare ourselves to others, in terms of looks, brains, personality.  It isn't a great thing to do, but it happens.  I think the key is to be content within yourself.  I have a lot of friends who I consider to be drop dead gorgeous- but I wouldn't be their mate if I also didn't like their personality.  Looks will only get you so far.  And I agree- we have left high school, but sometimes it seems that we haven't left it behind.

Answer 18

Not at all.

I dont pick my friends on looks.

Answer 19

i feel intimidated towards pretty people. or slimmer people than me. like meby i wont fit in. but in your case i think they are intimidated.

Answer 20

I know of a few people w/that proble. The issue is that, most really good looking women that take pride in how they look and put the extra effort in it, usually know how great they look and can be rather bitchy about it and try to make others feel like ****...then the women on the other side figure that is how they are...so yes they are intimitadted. I on the other hand, I give everyone a chance, pretty ugly fat skinny whatever...you need to find someone who is opened minded. It may be tough but don't give up...you'll find some new friends. Good Luck!! Don't change, keep being you. Don't be overly friendly either...some will think your being fake.

Answer 21

women can be b*****s