Ladies do you think its an attractive quality?

Question

Not positive on how to word this question so here it goes. I'm 17 and a Senior in high school. I have a lot of friends that are girls but have trouble getting dates. I'm the first to admit that i'm not the most attractive guy but i have alot of good qualities. I'm in great shape, funny (performed at many comedy clubs and have been asked back), play the piano and sing (write my own songs) and i'm well spoken and confident. I am also very nice to everyone. Why do I have trouble getting women to go out with me?

Answer 1

becuase most high school girls are shallow. looks matter to a lot of ppl so you could be the greatest guy in the world but without the looks girls just think of you as that great guy friend. i can totally imagine you...really popular but not the kind of guy you date. im still in high school but this is a fact: someday and maybe soon (like college) you will find great girls who like you for who you are and evetually you will find a better wife than most of the cool, attractive guys you envy now.

good luck (:

Answer 2

get to know them first dont rush things,

become friends and sooner or later that

one girl will fall for you  

Answer 3

Because you're such a nice guy, yet you're just looking for a DATE, rather than a relationship with someone you really like. Us nice guys suck at finding dates, but are great with a relationship with a particular person.

Answer 4

be nice, and if you have all those qualities but don't look well, then i doubt ur getting a date. So, get a hair cut, or grab some new clothes. Style and spice ur self up a bit. Then, just go ahead and ask a girl out. One time, this really really ugly guy asked me out person to person and I didn't even give him a hard time about it. I just simply say that ur a great guy but not really who I am looking for. Remember, girls don't handle things really hurtfully, unless if ur looking for those b*****s and s****s. But other 'normal' girls are not hurtful. So don't be afraid to ask them out. Go and get ur self a girlfriend.

Answer 5

Maybe, along with being nice, be flirtatious with a girl you are interested in. It may be they don't ask you out because you don't show enough interest other than being friendly. You will find someone trust me. Good luck

BTW thanks for answering mine

Answer 6

well personally you sound awesome so i don't know why you would have a problem but maybe it is the way you present yourself around girls or how you talk around them. believe when I say girls can be really picky on how they would want guys to act around them

Answer 7

i dont know put a pic maybe u got that skinny face and ugly haircut and u wear glasses or  have bad teeth or maybe u r out of their league

Answer 8

Ok Sooo you got a lot of friends who are girls, good start.

Noww the hard part is to first not look for a date because that's what will get you corrupted and probly not the right intention.

You want the intention that you just want to be better friends.

So try this, Try and get alone with a girl, one of your friends maybe.

Ask them if they want to study or hang out or whatever goes round your place.

Now you've got to be extremely nice, caring, and sensitive, if she's got a problem that's a huge plus because girls like a guy who can comfort her when she needs it, You've got to make her feel comfortable and feel that you're paying attention to her the whole time, compliment on what she's wearing and eventually you two will be become closer, when you think you're in love with one of these close friends show more of a romantic side and eventually u'll get a girl, but I'm not saying it'll work all the time ;P

Answer 9

take this from a girl. if they are your friends find the one that is most similiar to you and than try and ask the girl out but don't do it right away

Answer 10

i think you sound great! any girl would be lucky to have you! those are awesome qualities to have! word of advice get yourself out of the friend zone!! take a chance ask them out!! you might be surprised!!

btw thanks for answering mine!  

Answer 11

have you asked any one out? girls arent just about guys that are hot. just find the girl you like the best and ask her to go see a movie or go to the mall or something with you.

Answer 12

maybe you are becoming too good of a friend to the girls and they don't see you as a boyfriend just as one of them

Answer 13

i think your traits are very attractive. all you have to do is hang in there.  dont let any one girl who said no keep you down! Best of luck!

Answer 14

just be nice to them, don't brag, and ASK THEM OUT!

Answer 15

I think those all sound like attractive qualities. Maybe the problem is in your aproach,

Answer 16

i think becuase your too close to the "girls"

and try flirting ;)

Answer 17

first make sure you smell nice and wear deodorant, and make sure your skin is clear of acne. Try asking a girl out like that. If that doesn't work then try becoming friends with another girl first. Then they'll see you for whats inside and what a great guy you are.

ps, i'd go out with you. :P  

Answer 18

Because the shallow girls who are fun to look at won't look back.

The funny, athletic, musical, and confident girls will, but you have to find them first.

Once you do, charm them and ask them out. (Most girls will NEVER ask a guy out, but will say yes if he asks her.)

If you seek those girls, you'll find what you're looking for.  

Answer 19

i would have to see a picture you sound like a great catch tho :)

Answer 20

Well since I figure you want a girl with good quality. Maybe it's the girls you are asking out. A lot of girls go on looks, that's all it's sad. I personally don't I think it's dumb. Try looking for a really cool girl I mean you admit that you don't think you are the "hottest guy", well look for a girl that isn't "the hottest girl" I mean there are plenty of girls that aren't that fabulous looking that have amazing qualities like you do. If you don't want girls to judge you on looks do the same for them! I wish you good luck and if you need any extra help you are welcome to email me! for a more in depth answer