Ladies (ex-preggos only)?

Question

Whenever you had a miscarriage, did you ever feel like going up to big-bellied preggos and just wanna scream F*** YOU! to their face? (BTW, this is my second and most recent miscarriage, and I never had a baby. I think I'm at the "anger" phase or something) And answer me this, how come meth addicts and criminals can have healthy babies and I can't even have one??

Answer 1

After 2 miscarriages this year that is the last thing i'd want to do to an expecting mother.  If anything, i've thought how lucky they were to be able to carry a healthy baby.  

The reason for most miscarriages is because there is a problem with the baby, that is what i feel and it makes it easier for me  to accept my losses.  I think if you are feeling this angry you need to see a doctor and tell them how you are feeling.  

Answer 2

I am so sorry you are going through this.  I have never had a miscarriage, but my husband and I have been trying for 7 years to have a baby and have been unable to.  I feel the same way you do at times.  I have a neighbor who is a crackhead and has 4 children who have all been taken away from her.  She recently told me she is pregnant again and it took all my self control not to beat the c**p out of her.  Please try not to be discouraged, some women have several miscarriages and finally go on to have successful pregnancies.  You are in my prayers.

Answer 3

i have one son whos 6

then i lost one & i hated the sight of pregnant women

i'm about to have a daughter in 2 weeks & i said to my fiance  "i remember when i saw pregnant ladies & HATED them" I also said why can people have babies & i can't. it was very difficult.

but don't give up.  

Answer 4

You may want to re-word the question to say "those who have suffered miscarriage".

Answer 5

I'm sooo sorry and understand your anger :( Its terrible. I dont know why those types of people have babies...you would hope that fate would save the babies the tragedy of being born to them but ....I wish you all the luck.

Answer 6

dont be so angry....you should pray to God.  next time you have s*x, try elevating your hips after he ejaculates to help guide the sperm...trust me it works!

Answer 7

After TTC for long enough, and several very early miscarriages, I can understand the pain of losing children.

But No, I never felt this way, well maybe towards the meth addicts, but why would I want a pregnant woman, who clearly wants her unborn child, to feel as lousy as me?

Reading this made me feel terrible, almost guilty for the fact that I am pregnant now.

I'm sorry for your losses, but no, I don't think I ever wanted to scream "F*** You" in the face of a happily pregnant woman, nor did I feel any resentment towards her.

Jealous, of course, but not angry.

Answer 8

I hear you about the people who shouldn't have children but they do... I think it's terrible.

I'm sorry for your losses, my mom had two miscarriages as well and she has 4 children now, it will happen eventually! Keep trying!! Good luck with everything!  

Answer 9

Yes! It's been two years since my miscarriage and I still give preggo's the stink-eye.

I also find myself obsessing over pregnant woman, while hating them at the same time.

What was worse...right after my miscarriage my stupid sister-in-law got pregnant! I wouldn't talk to her and I still have harsh feelings toward, I felt as if she "took" my baby.

Also my due-date was Christmas Day *hello?* and guess what I got? My freaking horrible period instead! Then I had to face my very pregnant sister-in-law and watch as she received baby gift after baby gift and everyone rubbing her belly.

I remember someone was feeling her belly and told me to come feel it too. I lost it....it was a bad Christmas for me and I hated how that person *forgot* my unfortunate event and hurt me so bad.

Answer 10

I know how you feel. I have never had a miscarriage but it took me over 7 years to conceive the baby girl I am pregnant with now. I tried and tried with no success, and it seemed like everyone who didn't need babies were pregnant with them. I knew a woman who had 13 children and all of them were taken away because she was abusive and she had a drug problem. 10 of them were by different men! I was so mad that this druggie that couldn't keep her kids kept getting pregnant. She had human services on her case in 4 different states. When she would get pregnant again-she would just high-tale it to another state! Plus she was a welfare junkie-getting all kinds of services for children she did not have. All of her kids had a mental/behavorial problem and qualified for SSI or they were institutionalized. My SO and I actually had temporary custody of one of her kids! I loved taking care of him, but he was living proof of what drugs do to a child. He had so many behavioral issues, he was frequently kicked out of school and sent for pyschological evaluations. It's just not fair! Good people that want kids cannot have them, and unfit women get pregnant all the time. I always say things happen for a reason, but I can't seem to reason with that!

You have every right to feel angry. I don't know about wanting to punch every pregnant woman you see in the stomach, but I do know about being angry at them for getting pregnant when you can't bring one to term. It's just another sad part of life that some of us go through. If you are a praying woman, pray that it will be okay. You will be amazed at how much better you will feel once you become at peace with yourself. I know it's easier said than done, but do not make your every move about having a baby. Take a breather from it, and try not to worry about it for a few months. Sometimes, when you let up a bit, things happen.

Good Luck  & sorry for your loss. I know things will work out one way or another.

Answer 11

You have every right to feel that way right now.

I am sorry for your loss and you do deserve to be a parent.

I dont why meth addicts and people who dont want babies can get pregnant. Or people who choose to abort because it is inconvenient .

Be angry, have someone you can talk too. It will get better and I pray that you get what you want.

Good luck to you

Answer 12

Well I can't even begin to imagine the pain of losing a baby. That would be so hard. I can understand your anger but don't take it out on big-bellied preggos. Meth addicts, now that's understandable. Lol. It seems like so many people take their fertility for granted.  Sorry for your loss. I hope that you have a good support system to get your through this!! Be blessed!

Answer 13

I never felt like punching a random pregnant girl, but it did seem like after I had my miscarriage there were more pregnant girls than normal.  But OMGOSH!!!  Do I have the story for you. It was a week after I miscarried, I had to have a D&C.  My friend called me to tell me that she was going to the hospital by ambulance.  I met her at the hospital, she was 8 months pregnant at the time, and the nurse came to us and asked her how long she had a meth problem.  I almost fell to the ground.  I couldn't believe it, I did everything right, and I lost my baby.  And this crackhead did meth thruout her whole pregnancy and she gets to have a baby.  I didn't get it, I was anger at her, at everything in general.  I understand so much where you are coming from.  And I know the pain that you are feeling, but I promise you this, the pain and the anger will slowly go away.

Answer 14

I understand where your coming from. I never actually wanted to yell at them or anything but I did hate them for awhile. I was even more pissed at the women who got to have babies and they abused the right or the druggies and such. But after awhile i guess i started to let it go little by little and eventually i got pregnant again. I guess its just a waiting game. I'm sorry about your loses. Best of Luck and baby dust!