Ladies....need advice... We went from love to hate ... now what?

Question

I won't go into heavy details here but...on May 7 my long time GF who we had planned to get married in the near future and i left college for the summer she would be in nyc and i would be home...on June 2 my GF and I broke up but for the next few weeks still talked like we were together etc. We basically broke up because she said I was being unsupportive of her internship etc., but i just tried to explain that my emotions were a little skewed do to the long distance for 4 months. I made her a build-a-bear (I know, very sappy but it was a reach) with my voice on it to show that I was there in a way etc. Then after that it got ugly, she called me for a week straight and insulted me etc so i started to see another girl (i still cared about my GF a lot but the things she was saying were cruel) Anyway, when she found out, she started to cry and saying she did not mean any of it etc. That lasted for 2 weeks then she called and said she never wanted to see me again, talk to me again, she had moved on etc. We then did not talk for weeks, I wrote her e-mails, sent texts etc. ... all ignored... she needed help with her summer classes and I did the work for her so she could relax etc. Anyway, the other day she contacted me saying she missed me and that she had been listening the to build-a-bear i made her ... she also called another day to tell me about how well she did on a work thing she had to do. Then, over the last 2 days...when I would get on AIM she would IM me .. at first i did not respond but today i did and the conversation was awkward and she just kept giving short answers. o, I have not decided to get on AIM in a few days and yesterday I got a text from her that just said "Hi." .... I have not responded as I have no idea what she is trying to do or what I should say back.... What is she feeling? What is the point of these aims and texts? We will be abck at school in a week.... any ideas?

Answer 1

Games = hurt feelings

She wants you when she needs to get her work done and when she thinks someone else wants you.

The problem is she did not want you when her work was completed & you had not moved on.

School is coming and she will have to face you.

She will probably try to get back with you...she will have a lot of work due.

Let her go. Her intentions are not genuine.

Move on & look for someone who truly cares about you.

Best wishes

Answer 2

she still cares for you...and so do you, or else you woulnd't have written this.

whenever she comes back, take her out and have a long conversation about everything that happened and the way you feel. make sure it doesn't turn into an argument.

then if she tells you she loves you still, you guys should just slowly try to work it out.

long distace is hard and it can drive ppl apart but if there;s still love, there's still hope!!

Answer 3

The important thing is how are you feeling? If you want to give the relationship another shot then go ahead. I know that what you did was not really cheating since she had broken it off but you do have to realize that a relationship is a commitment. There is no excuse for cheating! Your GF might have been stressed with school and that caused her to act very emotional. Everyone handles stress differently. On top of that she was probably really hurt that you were seeing someone else. I think you guys really care for each other. Try it out and see. By the way, I almost melted with the bear thing!

Answer 4

DO NOT CONTACT HER, LEAVE HER ALONE AND MOVE ON, SHE IS HAVING A HARD TIME LETTING GO BUT IN THE LONG RUN YOU WILL BE BETTER OFF WITHOUT HER . ENJOY YOUR QUEST IN FINDING A NEW MATE