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Ladies what would you like to add to this list of dont do at at Wedding?

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The day two people exchange vows may not be your special day, but it's someone's special day, so be on your best behavior -- all the way from the I -do's to the obligatory Gloria Gaynor dance marathon...

Don't Be Fashionably Late As the song says, get to the church on time! Allow enough time to get to there 15 minutes early or more no matter what weather, traffic, or other acts of divine intervention pop up. Print out directions to both the ceremony and the reception (if it's at a different location). Many a wedding has been hampered by guests who got lost and showed up an hour late.

Don't Produce Sound Effects While at a wedding and reception, turn off your Blackberries and cell phones, put them on vibrate, or better yet, don't even take them!

Don't Talk Trash It may sound obvious, but it happens all the time. No matter how big or how loud a wedding is, things get overheard. So, be on your best and most polite behavior. No gossip about any of the other guests. No complaining out loud about anything -- whether it's the food or the long line at the ladies' room. And no comparisons to other weddings! As far as the bride and groom are concerned, this is a perfect day, and so it should be!

Don't Come Bearing Gifts Whether you're planning on gifting the happy couple a Cuisinart or cold hard cash, do them a huge favor and don't bring it on the wedding day. If you do, they have to keep track of it and haul it home at the end of the night. Send the gift ahead of time, or after the actual ceremony -- at a time when they can really relax and enjoy it.

Don't Dress Down Whatever you choose to wear, make the effort to look your best for the bride and groom. They'll appreciate that you got dolled or duded up for the occasion. If the invitation doesn't specify dress code, put in a friendly email or call to the bride, groom, their parents, or attendants to get more info. Black Tie means you've got to dust off that long silk dress or rent a tux. If it's an outdoor affair, there may be more leeway, but get details on the location, so you can come prepared (because it's isn't fun to be traipsing around in the sand in your stilettos!).

Don't Bring Mr. or Ms. Random If you're single, choose your date carefully. If it's someone you've only been out with once, it may not be the best idea (could be awkward for you, your date, and the newlyweds). Same if it's someone you recently "sort of" broke up with. Weddings are intimate affairs and bringing in a stranger should be done with thought. Let the bride or groom know if you decide to come alone so they can seat you with other fun "ones!" And as much as you may love your kiddos, don't take them if children aren't invited.

Don't Steal the Show Wedding ceremonies take all forms -- from religious to poetic, musical, or humorous. Whatever the vibe, let the bride and groom set the tone and follow their lead. If you're normally a loud, life-of-the-party type, bring it down a notch and let the wedding couple stand out. If you're a weeper, bring tissues and sit where you can sob without disturbing the I Do's. If the ceremony includes religious rituals, find out what you should do (or not do) ahead of time.

Don't Pig Out If food is serve-yourself, avoid the buffet line stampede and wait until the crowd dies down. Also, avoid going back for thirds. Take a break and save room for cake! Seconds might be okay, once you've seen that everyone has eaten. If the food is served sit-down, eat what is served without requesting substitutions or omissions, unless you have a food allergy. Otherwise, pick delicately or chow down, but don't gripe that you "don't like fish." Worse comes to worst, you can hit Burger King on the way home!

Don't Drag Out Skeletons If the bride blushes, it should be from pride, joy, or sheer love. Not because someone just stood up and told a humiliating story about the loser she dated in high school! Ingratiate yourself to the lady and her groom by avoiding any potentially embarrassing or juvenile behavior -- no bawdy jokes, no tales about their dating habits or exploits, no overdrinking, and no overly s**y dancing. Have fun, but don't have it at anyone else's expense.

Don't Stockpile Party Favors At the end of the night, as you're saying your thank-yous and farewells, avoid the urge to hog all the super-cool (or yummy) party favors! You don't need to take some for people who weren't able to attend. You don't need extras. Take one for yourself, unless someone in the wedding party urges you to do otherwise.

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  1. If you are going to use an article someone else wrote to start your discussion, you should at least give them the proper credit.


  2. I agree with the "Don't Come Bearing Gifts".  I always mail my gift or money to the couple before the ceremony.  It's so much easier for them.  Plus, I'm getting married overseas next year and don't want to lug gifts all over during our honeymoon.

    Also, don't leave really early or right after the ceremony.  I attended a wedding recently where many people attended the ceremony and skipped the reception.  The bride and groom paid for them to attend the reception part so they shouldn't of RSVPd that they were attending the event, if they weren't attending the entire event!  In this case, they should've made a note on the RSVP card that they would only be attending the ceremony.

  3. Don't get drunk and make a fool of yourself.  

  4. Dress appropriately for the occasion.  Don't try to upstage the bride or dress to provocatively.

  5. Just read this on Yahoo homepage.

  6. have s*x with another woman right before you marry cuz once you marry youll only have s*x with one person for the rest of your life! you dont want that to happen, do you?!!

  7. Don't runaway with the groom/bride.  

  8. Don't get drunk. Many weddings have been ruined by guests who think wedding=get as drunk as possible.

    ADD: I agree about not wearing white or wearing something that will draw attention to you. You don't need to be the center of attention on someone elses wedding day.

    Also, don't try to break up the wedding. If you had a problem with it, then don't come.

  9. I would take out the Don't come Bearing Gifts. Many weddings have tables set up for gifts and cards and usually the bridal party pack all of that up at the end of the night and the bride and groom open the presents later when they come back from the honeymoon. Many people can not send the gifts early or late for a number of reasons.

    I would add to the Dress part or don't steal the show to dress more conservative and not "S****y" the bride does not want every one's eyes on the girl in the short tight dress. The bride should be the focus. Also try to avoid wearing white. I think that the bride should be the only one wearing white to her wedding...maybe I'm a traditionalist.

    I agree with everyone else about the getting drunk part.  

  10. If you are the bride or groom and your families are meeting for the first time at the rehearsal, be sure to introduce them. Don't make them go through the whole evening without being properly introduced.

    Don't tell people who aren't invited to your 'private' reception about it and then be mad when they show up because you failed to tell them it was private.

    Don't play music that would be considered risque or explicit until such a time as most of the older guests have left the reception.

    Acknowledge that while the wedding and reception is about you and your groom, the number of guests far outweigh the 2 of you. Make sure they are properly taken care of and taken in to consideration (ie. if you are having a large Jewish contingency, don't serve pork. or if you are having a beach wedding be sure there is shade of some sort for everyone.)

  11. I would like to take out the Dont Come Bearing Gifts. Its the brides and grooms responsibility to take care of the gifts, in my opinion. We transported gifts across an ocean and didnt complain about it. A gift is a gift and should not have stipulations as to what or how...

    I would like to add Dont Be Boring Or Sulky. Cant stand it when I go to a wedding and people are just sitting in their chairs being silent, instead of talking to others or dancing. Even if the party isnt that great, youve got to get up and make it great and make the bride and groom happy.

  12. Don't be drunk to the wedding. That goes for the whole bridal party.

  13. don't answer the phone while your getting ready, if it's your ex gf/bf!!! don't listen to or watch the game.

  14. Don't wear white if you're not the bride.

  15. Don't get so drunk that you cause a scene

  16. Don't come if you can't attend the full program.

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