Last name for my baby?

Question

So I got pregnant sometime in May at a party and I have a good idea who did it to me, but I don't know if I should give the baby his last name or mine.

Any advice in this situation?

Answer 1

That depends.  If he is going to play an active role in your child's life, I would say either yours-his or his.  But the way you describe it, it seems like it was just a one-time thing, so I would give the baby your last name.  Best wishes to you and your baby!

Answer 2

yours

Answer 3

This baby will be part of your life forever, not his.  So please use your name.  Imagine in 10 years when you have to explain your childs last name is someone that was a one night stand that is not involved in any way.  I read some of your other questions and hope you have a really good support system.

Best of luck, and be healthy for you and for your baby.

Answer 4

Yours, but.. You have 'a good idea' obviously implies you had s*x with more than one person & can't be sure who the father would is. This is a pretty serious situation to be in & your priority of asking about last names doesn't really make sense at this stage in the game. Don't you want to find out who the real father is? And whoever he is has a right to know that he is going to be a father! You're both part of this.

Answer 5

yours

Answer 6

use your last name. but, i urge you to find out who the father is, so you can get financial support from that person. good luck.  

Answer 7

Do you intend to file a paternity suit? You'll have to in order to collect any child support or to even sue for child support.

If he agrees to paternity before the baby is born, the father's name will appear on the birth certificate. If you do not identify the father, your name will appear as the child's surname.

This doesn't sound like an ideal situation for the baby. Consider adoption. If that is not an option, then join parenting classes now.

Your phrase "who did it to me" makes it sound as though you feel you bear no responsibility. That's going to make motherhood unbelievably hard and, in this type of situation, the mom often resents the child for stealing her own youth.

Please, please get some counseling. At this point, the child's surname is the least of the problems.

God bless you and grant you the help you need.

Answer 8

Yours of course.

Answer 9

Yours! If he is not going to be in the baby's life he shouldn't be on the certificate. Also their are so many reasons one of them being if anything ever happened to you the baby would go to him.

I would just use yours!

Answer 10

yours! since the baby probably won't be with its dad and you're not sure who's it is.

Answer 11

Yours.  If he is not going to be a part of the childs life, then definitely don't give him/her his last name.  Also, doing so can make it possible for him to take the child without your permission, not that he would try it anyway.

Answer 12

your last name would be best. Seeing as this young man more then likely will not be involved in the baby's life.

Answer 13

Give the baby your last name especially if you are not going to have anything to do with the father.  If you do decide you want the father in the baby's life, then you need to talk to the father about it.

Answer 14

Well, it is very important to get tested for any diseases or disorders that you and your baby may have or possibly be proned to since you don't know the family and health history of the person who did this. It'll probally be best to give the baby your last name, and try to take DNA tests to find out who the father is so that he can be in child's life, or atleast so your baby can know who her or his dad is. Good Luck!