Last night my brother gave me a hug because i've been depressed. its the first hug i've had since vacation..?

Question

since vacation when he gave me one before he left to go home. i felt safe when he hugged me. i've been going through some tough times at home because my parents are fighting all the time and he knows im really depressed. he doesnt live at home so he isnt around all the time. but he's the only one who gives a **** about me right now. why is it that my brother cares about me so much but my sisters and parents dont seem to give a d**n??

Answer 1

Maybe because he feels he has a stronger connection to you. Maybe he can see what your going through clearer than the others. You are a very lucky person to have someone who cares for you like that

Answer 2

he must be like that by nature....he probably would have understood that u are depressed...ur sisters might not even be interested in what's happening in ur house...he has a soft corner for u......and this obviously means that he loves u.....does not necessarily depend on hoe close u are to him..after all he's ur bro..  

Answer 3

i no this might sound wired but if your parents are fighting and u dont feel safe and u do more when ur wwith your brother then u might need to move in with him or go vistit him for a month or 2 inrole in a school or take online classes just untill u feel better and u feel lik u can go back home....if u cant do that then i would get on the phone with your brother every night and tlk to him i makes everyone feel better when they tlk to someone they luv and that luvs them tell him that ur going to do that and make sure that u at least discuse moving in with ur brother or visting him...even if its till school starts it will help i promiss

Answer 4

If he's your older brother then he feels the need to protect you.

Answer 5

people have this inherint ability to be selfish.  However, there is at least some people who care about others.  Luckily your brother cares.  It's ok, you're going to be alright.  Just keep trying to make yourself happy.

Answer 6

Hi there,

NOTE: This is my personal opinion. I am not professional. Use my advice at your own discretion. Remember, YOU know what is best for YOUR situation, so use your own judgement; these are just suggestions.

Aww, it seems to me that you and your brother have a strong bond. He probably knows you better, or sees your pain more clearly than the rest of your family. Which is okay, but there are some ways to help the situation, in my opinion.

Maybe you can talk to your parents/sisters about this. You can have your brother back you up. I have a feeling that your parents and sisters probably don't know or understand what is going on with you. They might even dismiss it as a "phase", am I correct? I'm not completely sure about this, but that is the vibe that I got from your question...Well, now it's up to you to make them notice. Tell them how you hate it when your parents fight (in a nice, polite way. Do not yell at them, nomatter how much you may want to, because that probably isn't going to help...)

Have you heard of the phrase "Treat others the way you would like to be treated"? Of course, you probably have, right! Anyway, try that. If you want to be hugged, hug your family first. Give your mom a big bear hug in the morning before you leave for work/school/college/etc...Give your sisters a hug when you come home from work/school/college/etc. You see what I mean? And hopefully, soon, they will be hugging you back.

You can even have your  brother talk to your parents/family for you! (But I suggest that you be present while he does it, if you choose to take this course of action.) That way, they might listen or take you more seriously, if talking to them yourself does not work.

Also, for your depression, you can talk to your doctor about some medication/treatments for depression, if you haven't already.

I am so sorry that you are going through this. It must be really hard, huh? Just stick to it, and don't lose hope. I'm sure that your family and friends love you, even though it might not seem that way. Another point is that maybe your sisters are going through the same thing as you are...and maybe your parents are just stressed from the conflict at home that they are preoccupied...so maybe that explains why you may feel left out, right? Just an assumption, I don't really know your circumstances too well.  You know what is best for your situation. Choose what you do wisely.  

I hope this helps (Does it help even a little bit?) Anyway, I wish you all the best with your family. Good luck!

Answer 7

Because he loves you. And maybe your sister and parents aren't aware that something is wrong with you.

Answer 8

Honey i know what your going through. My parents are always fighting, i wish they would get a divorce sometimes, my dad won't even talk to me. But i know they love me. I need you to see things through a different point of view. It sounds like your house is under alot of stress right now, and i don't think they are purposly ignoring you. You need to be open with them without causing more issues. Take it at a calm attitude and tell them you feel really lonely. Make it clear the way you feel because i don't think they realize their neglect.