Last week my boyfriend gambled his full pay playing the poker machines what should I do?

Question

We have been living together for six months he cant even admit to having a gambling problem.

Answer 1

of course he lost it all slot mahines always take your money

Answer 2

Don't get married, please DON'T.

Try to help him, he'll probably refuse.

Then get out ASAP, this relationship is toxic.

Answer 3

well, if he has no insight, he will have to learn the hard way.

I would make it crystal clear to him, that you will not proceed with the relationship, if he does not stop bad habits. the pker machines always win, get him to buy shares in TOTE, then he will win from she money spent by other idiots.

also, I would not support him with a penny of your money. if he

can afford to spend his money that way, what does he live on? if you support him, you become a co-addict! and eventually you will face the Q: why did you go along with it

and now suddenly you choose not to carry on!?

be carefull, you are in a relationship-trap!!

Answer 4

Most addicted gamblers will never, ever, recover.

Seriously, you should get out of the relationship right now. Stay with him and you will spend the rest of your life in poverty.

Answer 5

Yeah at the very least you want to keep your finances separate.  You have to make him suffer the consequences of this even if this means breaking up.

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Answer 6

If he is not ready to admit the influence it has then there is little you can do.

Protect yourself financially straight away. Keep money seperate, and if you do have joint bills/accounts ensure you check on them very regulary to make sure they are not becoming overdue and impacting your credit history.

Open a new bank account and do not tell him of it, ask your employer to place an amount in it every week so you have something if you need it yourself.

Confront him, show him bills where he has not contrbuted at all, show him his pay slip and ask him to account for the money.

IF he will not confront it himself then I would think you should distance yourself from him if only to ensure any impact is not detrimental to you in the future.

These probably sound rather unfeeling suggestions but I have been in his place and the damage to those close can be devestating to their future as well as your own.

Answer 7

If he's squandering his full pay playing poker, how can he be helping with things like rent, bills, and groceries? I'd say kick him to the curb, but if that's too extreme, calmly ask him to attend addictions counselling for gambling. Couples counselling might help too.

If he refuses, it should be pretty clear that things aren't going to work. Why should you commit to someone who can't be bothered to look after himself, let alone his stake in your relationship?

Whatever happens, good luck!

Answer 8

get some of his pay and keep it. So that he does not spend all the money.