Learning difficulties?

Question

ok my son is 9 years old he was born 7 weeks early and has learning difficulties, his reading and writing skills are at the age of a 7 year old but his maths is excellent, they say he has a lil bit of lots of different problems like ADHD,dyspaxia and dyslexia..

the problem i have with him is when certain people are around he acts differently. with us he knows when hes pushed his boundaries and generally is a well behaved child until this person turns up, if hes doing something then he doesnt wanna do he will winge, he will moan, he will cry and make himself look like a 2 year old child, then when that persons gone you ask him why hes acted like that he doesnt know why...its so annoying

another problem we have is getting him 2 join in with activities, sometimes they do at school depends on the teacher, but once he joins in he knows he has fun, its like he doesnt wanna have fun,

i was wondering what other peoples thoughts where om this matter and was also wondering if you think i should speak 2 his specialists about this, thanx everyone for your time

Answer 1

Claire, your son's behavior is not surprising for a child with the learning difficulties you described.  

Many things are difficult for him and he doesn't want to feel stupid or anxious, so he is using his skills to get out of any circumstance that could make him feel stupid or bad.  I know the things he's doing are annoying and maybe even baffling to you, his teachers and him, but they are a strategy to both feel better and to avoid pain.  

This is the kind of thing that I specialize in - helping learning disabled children overcome the limiting and even damaging thoughts, emotions and behaviors that get in their way of learning.  

EFT, (Emotional Freedom Techniques) is one technique that (in the right hands) could quickly and easily help your son overcome some of these unhelpful behaviors.  If you can Google EFT and your city, you might find a practitioner who can work with your son.  Find someone who has a history of success with children.

I hope this is helpful for you.