Least confident person on the planet!!!?

Question

Ughh i cant take this anymore! I cant even talk to a freking guy without blushing, I cant wear tshirts without sweating like a pig and im afraid to even talk in class because my voice tenses up and cracks!

Im fifteen never kissed or even held hands with a guy.

I need helppp

and my hair is horrible looking its the poofiest thing you have ever seen

HOW DO I BECOME MORE CONFIDENT?? PLEASE HELP OMG!

Answer 1

Okay okay i had (HAD being the key word) 2 of your problems.

The sweating:  Go to your doctor and get a prescription for something called drysol.  I only use it on my underarms (where I sweat the most) but you can use it wherever you need to.  I had tried everything, even those "clinical strength deodorants" that claim to solve everything.  Nothing worked until I talked to my doctor.

The hair?  Get a good straightener.  I like this one

http://ecx.images-amazon.com/images/I/31... by remington.  I got it at Target for 60 bucks, but the other day it was down to 40.

I also reccomend the Garnier Fructis Anti-frizz serum.  I have never been able to blow dry my hair and wear it somewhere that same day, but i just started using that stuff, and I blow dried and straightened my hair and used that stuff, and my hair is softer than it has ever been.  its amazing.  it was onlt a few bucks too, like $4 i think

The voice thing?  Just laugh about it.  If you can learn to laugh at yourself, YOU will be more comfy with yourself, which you have to be before hoping to be confident about other things.

Embrace your good qualities- don't just focus on the bad.

And the boy thing, I had my first kiss at 15 and wish I had waited longer.  Don't be in a hurry to do any of that.  when you find the right guy, it will be a million more times special.  If anyone says anything, just say that you want it to be special, so you're waiting.

Best of luck!

Answer 2

I know a lot of people who are really conscious and the exact opposite of confident.

They have like "Clinical Strength" deodarant which is really good. Don't wear a cami or tank top underneath, it's more layers, makes you hotter and sweat more. Eeeww. XP.  

It doesn't matter that your 15 and haven't kissed. It's just a matter of finding the right guy.

Try some anti frizz serum.

Answer 3

The only real way to get over these phobias of talking to people is to talk with them. At first your going to be shy and that fine but after a while it goes away and it's no big deal.

-Phil

:-)

Answer 4

i am the same

i blush when i even see a hot guy

i hate wearing tee shirts cuse i think i look bad

and i never kissed

but as for your hair try out a new hairstyle

And i know alot of people who never kissed untill age 20 so your not alone

and as for the blushing i have no idea on how to make that go away

and for your tee shirt problum wear a lot of deodorant and wear a tank top under your shirt

It works trust me  

Answer 5

you sound a lot like me like a few months ago.

what really helped change me was fake confidence. I'm still not confident with myself. Its what i use all the time.

In the morning size yourself up. For example listen to some new cool music and dance to it however you want to. However you feel comfortable. In the begining you'll feel sort of embarrased but if you do it everyday you'll feel more and more confident.

another way to help size yourself up is to wear your favorite clothes and make sure to accesorize with your favorite stuff. Not what other people like. Wear YOUR favorite stuff.

a way to stop your sweating would be to make sure to wear a lot of deoderant. and if that doesn't work, whenever you start to sweat, then put on a jacket to cover it up.

and about the cracking of the voice, i used to make excuses like for example

"Dang, I haven't had water for like an hour! Sorry about that!" and make a dazzling smile and continue with the conversation.

and about your hair, just straighten it. Its not really that hard

well if you need help with anything else just tell me  

Answer 6

Confidence is all about how you perceive yourself. You need to think more positively about yourself. Instead of "I'm fifteen never kissed or even held hands with a guy." you should think "At fifteen I just haven't found a guy I'd like to kiss or hold hands with."

The sweating(which, you shouldn't think of as 'like a pig' either) is something that you might consider getting prescription strength antiperspirant or deodorant/antiperspirant that's designed to be prescription strength.

For your hair you might consider anti-frizz products or maybe even a straightener. But, one thing you can try for free is thinking positively. Tell yourself: "I am beautiful, I am loved, I am funny, I am a worthy person." Whichever one of those works for you or is what you need to be reminded of most, repeat it, adopt it as your new personal mantra.

Blushing isn't anything to be too embarrassed about, I tend to blush a lot too. I don't have any suggestions on how to prevent it, but hopefully someone else who answers will. As for your voice cracking, just relax. Reading in front of the class is not the end of the world.

I hope I could be of some help to you, you seem like a really sweet person. :D

Oh, and don't worry so much about being fifteen and never having kissed or held hands with a guy. I'm fifteen too & I've never done those things either. It'll happen when it happens. :D

Answer 7

I was soooo like you before! Than, everything just changed.

Okay, have you started school yet? If not, the first day you'll be really excited, right? Channel that energy! It's easy to go up to that guy and say "aren't you glad we have Mr. Anderson this year" if you really mean it! The next day, you'll be used to conversing with them and won't even notice!

About your hair, have you tried straightening it? Mine is just like that. I know it sounds really, really gross, but if you shower everyday, it'll be really hard. Even every other day. After you shower, you straighten it one day, and it's okay. The next, it'll be even straighter after you straighten it again. By the third day of just straightening it, it'll be pin-straight, and you shower again!

I'm 15 too, and I just had my first kiss and first hand-holding in June. It's totally nothing to be ashamed of! It'll come!

I know it's hard to not be nervous, but you have to stop thinking that everything's that you do is totally horrible and everyone notices. You're just another person, lots of people feel nervous! It'll be okay!

I hope I helped! Good luck!

Answer 8

to stop the sweating - when u take ur shower and u r completing ready to get out.. turn the water to completely cold water and stand there for about 5 seconds.

your hair style - look in the magazine for easy styles u can do yourself at home..

also if you don't think ur confident no one will think u are.. fake ur confidantes till it becomes reality

one more thing.. u have work on it.. no one make u have confident

and people are drawn to people who are secure in one self whether they are pretty or unattractive