Leaving daughter overnight for the first time????

Question

My husband and I are planning on going to a concert Saturday, and it will be the first time I've left her overnight anywhere. I am a stay at home mom and I've maybe been away from her 20 hours in total since she was born (she's almost 2) The closer it gets to Saturday the more anxious I'm getting, because I'm scared to leave her!!! Does anyone have any tips or anything, because I'm getting to the point where I don't want to go (but I really want to). Thanks. :)

Answer 1

GO....go go go.....wen shes a little older she'll want to stay over places and if u dont break this cycle now how will you let her go then?

Answer 2

Go for it.  Leave your number and make sure that you have theirs.  Set times for contact, like just before bedtime and you can call to say goodnight.  Also send her along with some of her favourite things from home.  Both of you will be fine

Answer 3

You go girl and enjoy your night out. She is in perfect hands and Grandma knows where you are if she needs to call you.

I was the same but if you don't do it now you never will and you'll find that after the first time you have left her it will be eaiser the second time and believe me you'll be wanting to go out every week.

I still panic now and my young un is 4 it's a parents instinct to worry about their kids if you didn't worry about them then there would be something wrong..

Good luck and have a great night out with your husband ( you'll find also you'll just talk about the little one all night anyway) Me and my partner have tried to go out on a night out and not mention the little one it;s hard try it for a laugh.

Answer 4

been there done that LOL just be sure to leave contact numbers for you and also someone else you trust with the sittter BE SURE YOU TRUST THIS PERSON with your life since your leaving your life with them. but you seriously need to go enjoy yourself.

Answer 5

I know how you feel. The 1st time i left my oldest overnight someplace, i bawled like a baby. My husband almost turned the car around. Just reassure yourself that the people you are leaving her with are going to take great care of her. Tell her everything that is going to happen, when you Will drop her off, pick her up, ect. Tell yourself how much you know you need this and remember that after this night, you will appreciate the bond you guys have even more. You will be fine and you both need this! Have fun! I kept checkin my phone the whole time to make sure i hadnt missed an important call from the people watching her. I still freak out when i leave her for the night and she has been soo many times.

Answer 6

She'll be fine!! As long as she knows grandma, it will be big fun for her. I had to let my 3 and 24 month old go 300 miles away with their ex-con father -- the court ordered it!! -- Talk about nervous.... But they were fine, and had so much fun.... wanted to go back as soon as they got home. They have been left with a few different people over the years - some they knew, some they just met - and they didn't seem to care or know the difference - as long as the people were nice to them.... they loved it

Make sure you have your cel phone and grandma can reach you - tell her to call if ANYTHING happens. Go ahead and call a few times while you are out. She'll tell you everything is fine, but it will help calm your nerves at least for a little while. (I call and annoy anyone that has my kids while I'm out having fun) Write out a long list of phone  numbers and instructions if you feel the need - Grandma won't need them, but it will make you feel better.....

Besides grandma has already raised at least one kid - and I assume you think she did a good job because you married him!!

After leaving her this time - it will be so much easier next time. Also -- appreciate that you have someone who can watch her  - I have no one to take my kids, even for a few hours, much less overnight...... I'm about to have a baby, and if the baby comes before my mother comes to get them next week I'm going to have to take them to the hospital with me - because there is no one near me who can take them, even for a event that important....... I'm just saying - You are lucky --- and keep your cel phone on you!!!

Answer 7

Yeah you trust your grandmother.. But the important thing is you never regret. So make it safe at your grandmothers house.. lock the door.. put like a 911 emergency button thing somewhere there so if anything happends you got control.

SECERITY system. What if theres a burglery? what if someone comes in and rapes your lil children?! I'm not trying to make you too paranoid.. but this is your CHILD and there's too much regrets in the world you have to watch for.

Be smart. Hope you have a good concert :]

Answer 8

If someone you trust is watching her go for it.

Answer 9

I was the same way with my two boys, just leave your cell phone number and have them call you at a certain time so you can check on them. They will be fine. It gets easier with time. Have a good time.

Answer 10

Would it be better for her grandmar to come over to your place, aand look after her there?

Don't be worried cos shes with her grandmar and im sure she will be fine.

I dont know what time your daughter goes to bed, but if its before you go then you could allways put her to bed and that way she would be at ease.

Hope you have a good time at the concert.

Answer 11

It's hard the first time for every mother. I remember leaving my kids overnight to attend a funeral in another city; they were 3 and 1. Give her a lot of toys from home if you're worried about how she'll adjust, bring her own pillow too.

Tell the person you're leaving your daughter with that you're having separation anxiety (I assume it's someone you're close with) and the person will try to put you at ease. It's just one night - you could call to check in, too.

Answer 12

the frist time you leave them is the hardest but you have to do just make sure the person watching her is someone you trust i mean yea gotta let go a little or what will you do when it's time for her to go to school go with her?

Answer 13

I understand the trepidation, but go for it!!  She'll be safe and happy.  And you deserve it!

Answer 14

You're doing the right thing - it's important that your daughter can trust more adults than just you, especially when the adult in question is someone who you yourself trust completely. Kids who can't do this have a horrible time going to playgroup and school, which is a shame when it's something they should be enjoying! It's absolutely worth bringing up your child, not to know that you are always there, but to know that you are always coming back.

At nearly two she probably talks and understands a fair bit? If I were you I would make a huge effort not to show your nerves (because she'll pick up on them and think there is something to be afraid of.) Explain to her what is going to happen and that she is going to have a wonderful time with granny. Don't even MENTION whether she will miss you or be upset. Be completely matter-of-fact that she's going to have a special evening with granny (and that she can take her own toys/pyjamas/blanket/whatever) and in the morning you will come to granny's house and she can tell you all about what she and granny did together. And don't make a song and dance about leaving her either. Give her a hug, remind her she's going to have a lovely evening, and walk away with a smile. You can have a howl in the car once she is out of sight :)

Good luck and enjoy your concert!

Answer 15

You will probably spend a lot of the time missing her! Know that you have left her in loving and capable hands and that she will be fine. And also know that in order for her to understand completely that you will always come back, you have to leave. Enjoy the concert, be sure to go to it even if you are anxious, know that if she has a hard time when you leave it is most likely because you are having a hard time and she can pick up on that anxiety very easily, and you will find that the next time you do this, it will be a little easier. And also -- it sounds perfectly normal!

Answer 16

I say you take a breather and give yourself and your husband this night that you deserve. Being that this is your first time leaving her over night. I bet the moment you get home and see that she is safe and sound with grandma, the next time will be that much easier. This has to be hard, but I promise it will get easier as time goes on.

Good luck and I hope you enjoy your concert!!!!