Leaving in 2 days and I'm worried..?

Question

I'm leaving for hawaii Saturday morning, and I'm a little worried about leaving my boyfriend. Sounds stupid I know. I'm not sure why im worried or what im worried about exactly. I want to have a good time and not think much about him, but I know that I will. And when I do think about him I'll be thinking about what he is doing. Then I'll be tempted to call or text him to see what hes doing. Which I dont want to call that much because I dont want to push him away. I want him to miss me. Also, If i do ask what hes doing, Im afraid he might lie because I wont be here to be SURE that hes telling me the truth. I dont know why im worried because i believe he wouldnt hurt me. I want him to miss me but at the same time i know i will be thinking about what hes doing and be tempted to call/text which will make me seem clingy, which will make him miss me LESS. Any advice? Thanks

Answer 1

Obviously something is in your relationship that make you insecure. If you don't truly trust him something is out of whack. Maybe you are both not on the same page. Maybe he thinks you too clingy and has told you this. Everyone is different in what they seek in a partner. Some are more affectionate than others.

All you need to do is be yourself. If that means you want to call or text than do it. If this is meant to be you need to be who you are or it won't work out in the long run away.That's the bottom line.

Its really hard when two people are not quite matched right but you love the other person. You are selling yourself short to not be someone who you know absolutely than nothing is wrong.

Maybe a discussion of your differences in order before you go away.

My best wishes

Answer 2

You're insecure and is it your gut feeling that he's not trustworthy?.  *I'm afraid he might lie because I wont be here to be SURE that hes telling me the truth* Why would you not text him or call him?  He's your boyfriend.  Why would you not want to think about him?  Why would you push away your boyfriend by calling him?  I'm sorry you're so frustrated with your feelings.  Talk to him and tell him how you're feeling and some of your insecurities might go away.

Answer 3

Call him after your first day there.  Tell him how awesome it is.  Then tell him you'll call again.  Don't be specific about when.  If he doesn't call you, then call him back on the 3rd day.  Tell him how things are.  I don't know how long you'll be there but only call him every other day at the most.  Don't make him think you're sitting in Hawaii missing him, let him know you're having fun but tell him you wish he was there with you.  Leave it at that.  That way you don't seem needy, pathetic, or pushy.  

Answer 4

Have fun & enjoy your vacation. He is your boyfriend theres nothing wrong with calling & texting. He may still miss you just by you not being around.

Answer 5

well i'd  say that if i where you that i would want him to come with me or i would ask him to trust that he won't do anything inappropriate

but if he does do something wrong i wouldn't worry about it. I would just move on so if this doesn't help i'll be glad to give you more advice.

Answer 6

seems you don't trust him

did he lie in the past, even white lies?

Why don't you compromise, enjoy your trip as best as you can, but give him a call and/or text once in awhile...just keep it short and don't get all mushy, but be happy

You don't want reverse psychology where he thinks you're neglecting him completely and he wants TLC elsewhere

Answer 7

Just enjoy your vacation.  If you are going to think of your bf, then you will not surely enjoy it.  Whatever that is going to happen will surely happen, We don't have control over the actions of nature and of god.

Don't worry, if your boyfriend loves you as you love him, then he will be there for you.  Otherwise, rest not necessary.

good luck and god bless