Leaving the nest at 18 to live with fiance, placebo please?

Question

Do NOT lecture me on love or that I shouldn't have a fiance at 18.

10 Points to whoever helps me well.

Before you read this, I'd like a somewhat of a "Jedi Mind Trick"

You know? I Placebo?

A pyschological trick of overcoming my nervous ness? Maybe I phrase I can repeat, at least some words of encouragement.

Please read it CAREFULLY, if you will. My email is included if you want to help on a higher level.

Thanks.

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My story with questions.

I was seperated from the only girl I've ever been with that ever made me feel this way. We are sure it is love, so please keep your comments to yourself and answer the blunt of the question.

It's been 2 months+ since we've been apart, and our love has done nothing but grow. I can't picture myself with her not in my life.

I love her family, every single member, as I am social with all of them and learned to love them on a personal basis, got to know them really well.

That being said, her uncle has decided to let me move in with him since he has a 4 bedroom house and a free room for me. Everything is paid for (No rent, food, electric all that is paid already). He has agreed for me to roomate with him, of course, I will be completly obligated to pay for my utilitize as I am no loaner.

I will be turning 18 in December (the legal tender age of adulthood), I don't not think my age makes me superman. It does not. Legal however, it gives me the right to move out on my own without my parents deciding. As I am sure they will help me every now and then, I do not need them to.

Right now I am scrambling for a job, I've had 3 interview at 5 places I've applied. 0 for 3. Ouch. I'm still trying, I have around 4 months? 15/16 weeks. I'll get a part time job, if not a FULLTIME job (I pray for!) because I am homeschooled, so graduating (If I don't graduate by December, I'm homeschooled like I said. I have 22.5 credit out of 20, just need a half credit in a core class and a full credit in other cores, I am free to use their computer to finish, if I don't graduate by then)

I'm really worried, I'm moved from Florida (where I spent 17 years of my life, to Arizona and I don't like it at all omg! It's like living in satans buttcrack), I'm moving back to Arizona with her uncle, as stated. I'm just really worried. Not about our love tho, it's so strong and I'm so sure about it, and if anything 6 months apart is the greatest test of any relationship. I'm worried that I won't make enough for a car when I get there and I'll be hoofin' it to work everyday. What can I expect to make in the next 4ish months assuming I find a job. Wost case scenary (job wise) please.

I'm also VERY nervous about leaving, it's going to be hard, I love my family they love me, I have their support, I'm just so frightened to get in that cab and go. It's so nerve racking.

Can anyone give me some tips to keep in mind? Some good psychological advice to man myself so I stop killing myself with worry?

A placebo perhaps.

Winner gets 10 points! Haha, thanks so much for reading.

Please contact me via email if you want to really talk me through this, I will REALLY appreciate it!

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Thanks so much!

Answer 1

I'm not sure I can give you tips about what to DO, but I can give you tips about staying sane. I'm 16 and already on my own taking care of my mentally handicapped 18 year old brother. Both my parents bailed last summer. It's been the hardest year of my life.

It would make sense that you're scared. Trust me, I DEFINITELY relate. I have learned to rely on God more than I ever thought possible. Whether or not you are religious, you asked for a placebo. But I can tell you that I have found a lot of peace and comfort in faith.

I have the great fortune of still being able to rely on my mother's financial support. She doesn't live here, but she still pays for my education, food, clothing, etc.

I know you can get a job and work hard and become who you want to be! (I guess I have faith in mankind.)

Last thing that will keep you sane? This girl that you're so in love with. :) I've never been a big fan of age discrimination (I really couldn't afford to when my parents left me with my brother when I was 15!) Anyway, you can do it. As Patricia Sampson said, "Self-reliance is the only road to true freedom, and being one's own person is its ultimate reward."

God be with you!