Leaving the nest finally, really worried, help?

Question

I'm turning 18 soon and I'm moving out on my own to roomate with a few people in Florida, where I'll be attending college.

To follow my heart, have you.

Note again: I'll always stay in contact via email, phone, etc. And I am not "burning bridges", I have the support of them if I have to return.

My father isn't so hot about it though.

Please do NOT change the subject.

I have a feeling it's going to be really hard for me to leave when the day comes. Anyone have some encouraging words they could give me to ease the pain? I seem to be worrying ALOT and I leave each day scared.

This is something I want more than anything in the entire world.

I'm leaving after my birthday, I wanted to do it before to avoid that emotional bout with my family but, I decided that may not be so good on them?

I'm just so nervous that I'm going to punk out, I really want this.

It'll be in 4 months (little less)

Anything you can say to ease my troubles.

Again, please don't change the subject saying I'm dumb or whatever, I'm not. You do not know the story and I have all expenses covered, everyone, I havn't overlooked a thing.

This is just killing me.

Anyone whos left at 18 or so have anything to say to let me know what I can think of to cheer myself up and not worry and not chicken out?

It means ALOT. 10 points for a well reply that helps me alot.

Answer 1

I think that you should do what makes you happy...adn if this is what you want, go for it! I would have loved to have left just for a while when I was 18, but I chickened out...so, follow your heart and I hope you ahev a blast! =D  

Answer 2

You will never know just exactly who and what you can be unless you get away from the parents and "do your own thing"  All parents and children are sad when the child leaves home because it's the end of an era.  But it's also the beginning of a NEW era where YOU are in control now and can try to live up to your potential.  Don't feel guilty about it, don't let anyone try to make you feel guilty about it and don't be sad about it for too long.  You'll feel a little homesick for awhile, but I guarantee you'll get over that.  This is what you're SUPPOSED to be doing when you reach adulthood.  Thank your parents for all they've done for you, hug and kiss them good-bye, then turn around and face that future that's waiting for you out that front door, honey.  It's going to be whatever you make of it and it's YOURS!  Good luck!!!    

Answer 3

i did the same thing with my parents and chickened out, and at the age of 49 i still wish that i had done what i wanted and maybe my life would been different now. but who's to say, i never took that leap. just try to keep the lines of communications with your parents open and spread those wings and fly out of the nest. you may just surprise them and yourself. good luck  

Answer 4

I think you are having the most normal reaction to this situation and you are not alone. Alot of people have this same fear when they first move out on their own and away from their parents.

My suggestion: To ease the worry of certain things on the official day you are moving out, start trying to move small things into your new apartment as soon as possible. (If you have the apartment already). Try to get a feel of that new atmosphere and those new roommates gradually. The best thing about this situation is that you still have alot of time (4 months) to ease your way out the door and on to the new chapter of your life. Everyone has to grow up sometimes and you have to go with what will make you happy in the long run. People and family will always have their objections to things you do with your life.......but remember its YOUR LIFE! You have to make your own decisions and as long as you keep in mind that family is your #1 source and support for everything and that you never "burn any bridges" with the people that love you the most, then everythings should smoooth itself out.

Let the chips fall where they may and follow your path to success. Stay focused on the fact that you want this more than anything. And you'll never know what the future holds. Sometimes things like this don't work out. If it doesn't work out for you this time and you would have to move back in with your parents at some point, then at least you had that experience and the next time you are ready to get out on your own you will be much more confident in yourself. I hope I helped a little.......stay safe and i wish you all the best.....

Answer 5

well its the same when i left home for further studies.. but you know you'll enjoy your friends' company and with studies heading you'll slowly get absorbed... whenever you miss them tell yourself that you love them and they love you too... and tell yourself that they'll be so proud when they'll see a degree certificate in your hand...

so good luck from me...