Lebanon Category.. DO you sometimes..?

Question

Do you sometimes feel like your left behind in life? Sometimes I feel depressed because everyone I know is having children and they cant hang out anymore I start to feel empty. I dont want children but it doesnt change that feeling when everyone you know at your age is married with kids :( Does anyone know what I am talking about? Im 25btw for those who dont know.

Answer 1

iam 26 (soon to be 27) year old guy and i feel like you ..

when i look at my cousins' or friends' daughters and wives i feel left behind as well .. but then i look at other cousins who are 40 and are still single ...

it's all relative .. it's up to you to choose if you wanna look up or down ...  

Answer 2

LOL @ Global wanting to hook you up with dates, I hope your husband is open minded.

The truth Halawa is that if it wasn't children it will probably be something else.

Human beings are so good at cursing their lot in life and thinking that the grass is much greener on the other side.

I think we all do that, we all have a little pity "poor me" party every now and then, it's probably essential and purging.

As long as we are capable of lifting ourselves out of it, remember all the blessings we have, and pick up life where we left it of.

Answer 3

i feel like im missing out on alot :(

i skipped a yr of high school and im not graduating with my class

to some pppl they tell me stop whining, shutup, blah blah blah lol

but to me it means alot cuz these same people went to elementary school with me, i have known them for YEARSSS, and now cuz im graduating early i have twice the workload of a regular senior and all these AP classes and c**p im not enjoying my senior yr at all, im over working myself this is my last yr in america i should be enjoying it but im not, im never gonna see the place i grew up in again and i will never see the people i grew up around either, i see all my friends living a normal life and having fun and i cant ever go out and do c**p thanks to A) strict parents and B) the workload i got myself into

so i know how u mean, sorry to say idk how to cure this feeling lol i wish i did know cuz im gettin really depressed lately i wish this school yr never started  

Answer 4

I know my reply will be different from all the other ones.......but..I'll try to be clear.

All human beings have stages in our lives....and each of them have different levels of responsibilities.

When we decided to get marry, we assumed most of the responsibilities we'll have along our lives...one of them is to have kids (own kids or adoptive ones)

But we already know that.......

Your friends also know it...and for me, as surelly for them, to have children and to raise them is one of the bigger targets in life.

To have them.......or not, is related to each couple, but the majority want to have kids. And it is great. I think that a couple without kids is like a tree without leaves. I always thank to God for my sons, bcoz in my mind, I feel as if I'm not going through life for nothing. Something from me will stay after i have gone...

Also.....I know how you feel, but your friends now, have another kind of responsibilities.... not all is hanging out.

B4 I have my sons, we used to go out so much, but after we decided to have them, our life changed and i dont regret at all now.

We also changed our habits.

Our circle of friends changed, without forget the single ones, or even the ones without kids.

Instead of going out.....all the week ends we joined in some of our homes.....we had dinner together...played card....listened to music we liked or simply talked for hours...while had the beds full of kids sleeping (sometimes were 10 in all the bedrooms) til 3.00 0r 3.30 am when all decide to go out to each of our homes.We took the kids, covered them, put them inside the cars, and they never knew that have been sleeping in another house till that hour.

They all grew up together..are the best friends nowadays, (are 12 and many of them already married too) and our circle is a very united one.

To have kids doesnt mean that the social life has to finish.....is only about to search for the best way to adapt our parental roles with our youth and wishes to be part of a society.

I got married at 26...almost 27, and after 2 years and a half i already had my 2 sons.Many time has passed since that..(more than 30 years), and to be sincere, just 2  from years ago, when the younger got his degree, I felt that was time for myself again.

Dont complain about that ur friend's life changed...you have to look for the way to be with them if you want, or on the contrary to look for new ones...but think that the new will get marry and will have kids some day too.

Life is in permanent change, but we have to know how to accept it and take the best of it.

Answer 5

Yes I know what you mean...people with kids tend to have lesser free time and have the need to spend it with their kids. Maybe you should make new friends, like if you go to a sports or language or whatever class you can meet new people adn go out for coffee etc. I think you should fill out your free time with all sorts of activities so you don't miss your friends or even have time to think of them and be depressed abt it.

Answer 6

I know what you mean but what the h**l do you mean when you said at 25 years they have kids... hun you still have a life infront of you what the h**l are you talking about !??

Answer 7

hey Halawa

i do understand what you mean exactly and I'm facing the same problem not becoz my friends are getting married but most of them left the country, others have BF's and spend most of their times with them, but the good thing in my story that i have a sister with one year age difference and that's amazing. she is my friend, we hang out all the time, never feel lonely and bored together, do all the crazy stuff and most important help each other in every way without worrying if she might or might not harm you like any stranger (friend).

in your case if you don't have a sister you should mingle in new groups / societies and make new friends and if you want come hang out with us :)

Answer 8

Yep...know exactly what you mean. Its a natural part of the sociological-cycle; As mentioned, your friends are going through a major transition, but give them time and you'll be invited over....to be bombarded with stories and pictures and anecdotes of their kids LOL ;)

But I know that it doesn't change the way it makes you feel :(

On one hand, the girls are going to need to get back into the social world (take a break from the kids) and they'll hope that you'll be there for them....

Meantime, making new friends is a good idea :) you need to meet people who are still living their age, (or at a similar stage in their lives), who still want to have fun, go bar hopping, clubbing (well, going out to have fun and not too concerned about having to get married and having kids)....I think 25 is still young in the sense that I disagree with society's pressures for any girl in her 20s to get married..."yalla yalla yalla"...

I personally think 30 and upwards is a good time to get married...

Ps: your married girl-friends will be a really good source to hook you up with dates ;)

I babbled on and on and on...hope some of it helped :-)

Answer 9

Wait till you get to my age ! Not only is it easy to feel as if you can't keep up but people tend to keep reminding me !

As far as whether or not to have kids , that is totally your call but you need to realize that they change your lifestyle in many ways ....freedom goes straight out the window & your day revolves around their whims & fancies ..lol

So be patient with your friends....they'll be back once they get past the initial shock of parenthood !