Legitimate reason for secrecy?

Question

Why would a person have a friend of the opposite s*x their spouse is "not allowed" to meet? Why would they prevent this friend from seeing their spouse? Why would they expect their spouse to "hide" when their ex was around? Why would they refuse to wear a wedding ring? Why would they hide the fact that they are married from their family? Or not tell those living in their own house that they are married? Why would they keep secret where they live from their family? Even family members who live in the neigborhood? Why would they hide all phone, credit or other bills from their spouse? Why would they refuse to disclose their whereabouts for hours on end, not answering or returning calls or texts? Why would they not allow their spouse to have a key to their vehicle or their P.O. Box? Why would they be receiving mail at their P.O. Box for another person of the opposite s*x, with the same last name, but who is not a blood relative?Why would they try to prevent their spouse from engaging in activities outside the home? Or try to keep them from listening to music or watching tv? Why would they fail to place their spouses name on the house and conceal from others that the house was purchased? Why would their credit report list two social secuity numbers? Why would a person try to prevent their spouse from contacting family members, hiding where they live and refusing to give their spouse phone numbers to contact their family members? Why would a person refuse to disclose to their spouse their whereabouts when they take off work? Why would a person be so secretive towards their spouse? Could they just be "quirky" or suffer from some kind of paranoid delusion?

Answer 1

Anyone who acts like that towards their spouse should not be married.  A marriage is a partnership and a sharing of lives.  If you can't share then you don't need to be married.

Answer 2

"Quirky" is just a polite way of saying "weird", but in this case, it's clear the person you're describing is full-on batsh*t-insane, and if you yourself are mentally stable, you need to get far, far away, and find a non-psychotic significant other.

Answer 3

Wake up.This is not a normal or stable person.You need to get back to reality contact your family get out of this situation and start leading a life of happiness and the spouse can deal with whatever issues without dragging you down and wasting your time.

Answer 4

The person (to answere it bluntly) is living a two existing life.  Is not honest and can not be trusted...  No matter how you are connected to this person.  Depart your self from them right now before you or someone else gets hurt.  This person is not honest and is living a great lie..  I cant for any reason thinik of why they are doing this except cheating..  Good luck..  Grant in Pennsylvania

Answer 5

This is a lot of questions and I think even you know the answer to all of them.  If you are the spouse doing these things then let your husband/wife retain some dignity and get a divorce.  Why cause them undue pain and hurt so you can get your rocks off?

If you are the spouse this is all happening to then you know what to do.  File for divorce and move on.  If you have children, file for spousal support and child support.  Retain an attorney and fight for yourself.  Don't be a victim any longer.

Answer 6

that's alot of WHY's.... DIVORCE HER!!! shes LIVING A LIE

Answer 7

Because they are shady, illegal and down right wrong. Not quirky not paranoid delusion. Identity Theft at best and polygamist  

Answer 8

This sounds like the person is living a double life.  they amy have more than one spouse.  These questions need to answered but not by us by the person trying to hide you from the rest of the world.  and why does your family not step in and say we want to see you and there is something wrong here.

Answer 9

how about leading two lives at once