Less attention to a male victim of rape?

Question

I read in wikipedia that men who were victims of rape of other men or women get less support. .Is this unfair for men or not? Coz some may say male rape victims are rare

Answer 1

I think it's true, although I don't think the support is such an issue as the social awareness. Men tend to be embarassed, thinking that it means they aren't a man and they will be mocked. Other men can sometimes be ignorant and ignore the subject or think it's 'g*y' or means the victim is 'weak'.

Answer 2

Be skeptical of wikipedia. In this instance, yes. There are much larger social stigmas about male rape, with either a male or female rapist. While rarer than female rape victims, they are, unfortunately, not rare enough.

There are fewer infrastructures for male victims (I certainly don't know of any male crisis centers or programs), probably because the mentality is it can't/shouldn't happen. Also, I happen to agree with Pandora: I think men are the biggest obstacle, socially, for men who have been raped. Nearly every female I know has a strong negative reaction to this, but many males express disbelief or kind of shrug it off and say the man should just deal with it.

Ricard: From my understanding of it most men who rape men aren't "g*y"; it's a power thing, not a sexual thing. It's also my understanding that while most men who rape women are heterosexual (like most of the population) in this case it is also a power thing.

Answer 3

Yes its unfair. And there are more males victims of rape than society wants to admit. The reason is that men get and stigma when they are raped. Thus shut-up. Also, its not really good for the g*y movement public relations to show the statistics of men (specially boys) raped by g*y men. And in this the church have a good deal also (there are MANY priests that are g*y and some of them are pedophiles).

Finally, most men do not see a woman raping him as rape (unless is Shamu the killer whale) as a rape.

I had a friend that was repeatedly raped during his childhood by his mother. Mentally sick people are in both sexes.

Answer 4

they don't get less suport only that men rapes are truly rare and most of them don't admit because are ashamed

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Answer 5

dude.??,

I can't speak about resources for men raped by other men, but I speak to men raped by women.

I've found that resources were available for men when I finally faced up to the circumstances of my own rape a few weeks ago.  I am in counseling and belong to several online support groups full of women (and a few men) who are very understanding and helpful.

Unfortunately, men are less likely to report rape.  I know I didn't because she threatened to label me a rapist if I did.  Further, I knew that I would not be believed and possibly lose my liberty in the process, not to mention being belittled and ridiculed.

Another thing not in our favor is the ridiculous urban myth about the "wet noodle" - that a man cannot be erect unless he wants s*x.  Erections are not always about sexual stimulation or the attractiveness of the other individual(s).  I can hold one for hours, even when drunk and passed out - which my rapist took advantage of during the attack.

There are resources out there for us, just not enough.  Not everything that applies to a female survivor will apply for a man, but enough will that makes a difference.  It will take more men being willing to admit they were raped in order to secure more specialized support resources.

Answer 6

The reason that they get less support is mostly because they do not seek support. Men are even MORE ashamed than women, in many cases, to have been the victim of rape. They tend to minimize it and often tell no one.

Answer 7

Women get more support because we are seen as more delicate creatures. Men on the other hand are seen as strong invincible warriors. Many rape crisis centres, assume that they can handle it on their own, which is in fact a much more isolating experience for the men.

Answer 8

If a man who was raped asked for support from a woman or a rape crisis centre then, in my country at least, he would receive every support available.

However, I believe that support from other men is often difficult. Either victims feel they can't ask for it because other men will condemn them or dismiss it (maybe including police in some jurisdictions) or they have difficulty saying they were raped and - having all of their lives believed the same myths about rape that mainstream people do (that men don't get raped; if they do the rapist must have detected secret gayness; they r gonna turn g*y; they must have asked for it; real men are invincible... and so on)   judge themselves harshly too.  Many commit suicide.

Answer 9

it is unfair. sexual assault on any person is a horrible, cruel thing. it is more rare for a man to be raped but it does happen. what's really disgusting is male victims are made to feel like 'sissys' when they report it, so sadly it goes unreported in many cases.