Let me know what you think...family problems...

Question

here's what happened. i was sitting down eating peanut butter out of the jar (which is allowed at my house) and on today my brother deceided it wasn't allowed. so he starts yelling at me what the F are you doing. so i'm like leave me alone this is none of your business. My brother is screaming at the top of his lungs so my dad comes down and starts yelling at me saying very ignorant things. MInd you he has no idea whats going on and just takes my brothers side right away. While i'm looking at my dad and arguing with him my brother literally runs over to me and strangles me with his hands. So I start to hit him trying to get him off of me. Then my dad runs down and starts to hit me. So i slapped him to get him off of me. (and trust me i didnt want to touch my dad because its really disrespectful but i kinda had to) I know its really immature but i knocked this iron onto the floor and left the house. Now they are saying that I have issues and attack people. Honestly I'm really telling you what happened i know its crazy and messed up but i want to know what you all think. Am I seriously in the wrong here?

this happened two days ago and since then my brothers car got keyed and he is trying to say that i did it. I really didn't and its bothering me so bad i don't know what to do. Also what makes this even crazier is that i'm 20. my brothers 23 and my dads in his 50s. i feel really bad about what happened between me and my dad but i really really really dislike my brother so i don't really care. I know thats really mean to say but if you knew him you would understand. And this is not by any means the first time he has hit me and left marks, bruises, cuts, and scars.

Answer 1

This is a little shocking to me. There must be more involved in the problem then whats really at the surface here. I can understand your brother for getting mad at you, but at 23 years old I dont believe him, or your father should be putting there hands on you. In no way, shape, or form would you deserve that.

Maybe you should just talk to them and see how they are feeling in a nice fashion instead of yelling and fighting?

Well good luck =]

Answer 2

Make up with your dad, if you can, and ask him to try and see your side of things sometimes. Tell him you love him. And I agree with the other answers that getting your own place might be the best solution. Good luck and I hope things work out for you.  

Answer 3

i think its time for you to move out.....

Answer 4

I dont think YOU were in the wrong. I think your brother has issues and took it out on you. If eating the peanut butter out of the jar is ALLOWED there was something else bothering him and took it out on you! For your father to just start yelling and not knowing WHAT was going on then he has issues too. YOU DID NOTHING WRONG. you were attacked and you defended yourself.... obviously your father wasnt there to help you!!  If you feel bad.. apologize to your father and let him know that he was also in the wrong for not taking the time to find out what was going on before jumping down your throat!!!  good luck

Answer 5

Time for you leave home treasure..

Let your rotten brother show his true colours to your daddy while you are not there. Daddy will soon be calling you to help him get the rotten *** outta his house!! Ha Ha.

If you stay there, get as much evidence as you can - record his manic episodes using your mobile phone camera or microphone. Call a friend and keep her on the line to hear what is going on - they might be able to talk to your father for you.

This is hard - as is with families....

I wish you luck, Keep your chin up.

Answer 6

This sounds like a huge mess.. both you and your brother need to get a job and get a place of your own away from family. You can rent with roommates. Just go to visit brother or dad..

Its hard out there in this big ole world and in life, your dad has done his job, he has raised you both. If he has abused you before you are old enough to move on now.. time to do it... Time to grow up. and eating peanut butter out of the jar is gross for people who are germ a phobic.  I sure wouldn't want to have your germs growing in a jar of peanut butter in my house.. can you see why now? good luck in life... really get a place of your own.. time to get your own life and make your own rules! God Bless

Answer 7

it sounds to me you were right

and nobody should be hitting anyone

also if you are 20, you could be living

in your own place and not dealing

with this

look into it

take care