Letter of apology question

Question

There is this one guy who made me really mad, we talked for about 3 months and I felt he over crowded me and manipulated me somewhat. I received an apology letter from him via snail mail, where he took responsibility for his actions and he did not make any excuses as to why he did what he did, in fact he was not pushy in the letter or anything and he appeared to be sorry. Should I give him a second chance or just continue to ignore him?

Answer 1

Given the attitude of the letter, perhaps he has gained understanding of himself.  If you like him, call him.  If you don't want to hang around with him anymore, respect the fact that he contacted you and put himself out there. At least let him know that you appreciated his words but have gone on with your life.

Answer 2

Manipulative men will always be manipulative. Don't make the mistake of thinking he will change unless you have also changed. Sometimes it takes two to make a relationship what it is. If you are making him insecure, he will be masterful and owning, which makes you feel valued, so you do it more and so does he. By all means make contact and thank him for his letter, noone deserves to be ignored, that is very hurtful and emotionally damaging. If you feel like you want to try again, then by all means do so, but remember the reasons it all fell apart first time around before you take that step. Relationships should be an equal partnership, with noone in charge, each taking pleasure in the company of the other.  

Answer 3

I think you should at least acknowledge his apology, and probably accept it, since you believe him to be sincerely sorry.  It takes courage to apologize, and his letter shows that he cares.

Unless you think he will overstep boundaries again, please give him a second chance.  He sounds like a good man.

Answer 4

I believe in second chances; however, I agree, be aware of his behaviour.  

At the first sign of him returning to his 'old ways'', I would stop seeing him or receiving e-mails.  

You will know what to look for as you are aware of him crowding you and his attempts to manipulate you.  Good for you.

Answer 5

maybe you could just try to be friends with him to start with. then you can guage his actions without being too close. make it perfectly clear that you are just friends. then, if things go well, you can always change your status.