My gf and I broke up around a month ago after 2.5 years due to a mutual need to get out and experience life apart for a while as we are only newly 19 and the seriousness of our relationship was beginning to scare both of us. Our love for each other was never doubted, its just sometimes love is not enough, and the lack of a life outside each other began to produce problems even love could not solve. We saw each other 5-6 days a week, talked 2.5 hours on the phone every night, and lost touch with friends.
After the original break-up (she broke up with me) we met up several times as she was regretting breaking up with me. These meetings would contain around 15 minutes of being friends, and then old feelings would come up again and we would be hugging and cuddling and all the good, depressing stuff. It is clear that we both still care VERY much for each other and 3 days ago we decided that we need to stop meeting up for good, else we may end the relationship on bad terms instead of good, and destroy any future we hold with each other. We have a ton in common, have a very strong spark between us, and just developed a relationship that was comfortable on a level that somewhat terrified us.
My problem is before we had the "talk" I got discount tickets to the city Zoo, as we had always wanted to go there together. Now I don't know whether to just return them (as I couldn't imagine going with anyone else yet) or let her know I have them. I have a feeling that If we meet up, the last 3 days of crying and missing her like h**l will have been for waste and it probably won't help the situation in the long run. She's coming to my school next year (University of Toronto), but the campus is huge and we probably wont see each other if we choose not to. This whole situation is just extremely difficult and the wide variety of communication methods of modern-day-society makes it even worse.
Anyone been in a similar situation?
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