Letting son see his biological father.?

Question

My son is 3 and doesn't know his real father. The only person he knows as dad is my boyfriend who's been ther since i was pregnant.. Im just saw him yesterday and like usual he claims he wants to be apart of his life.. i really don't trust him, but if i do allow him to see him is there anyway i can get full custody rights but allow supervised visits

Answer 1

You have had your son since the day he was born, just because his biological father states he WANTS to be a part of his life, he has not proved that at all, and has had 3 years to do so.  You sound like you are really thinking about letting him be a part of his sons life, so I am assuming that you have left that door open for him from the child's birth, and yet he has not stepped up.  This really is YOUR choice.  If I were you I would seek advice from either domestic relations, or consult a lawyer (you should be able to talk to somebody free of charge) to see about drawing up a custody order.  I know when my ex and I split I petitioned the court for full custody of our children, and they scheduled a court hearing and thus granted me full custody with him getting visitation rights (it did not cost me anything either).  Also the Child Welfare agency in your county may also be able to help with supervised visitations if that is what you choose to do considering your child does not know his father, therefore how are you to even trust him to be good to your son?  also one last thing, how does your boyfriend feel about this?  I mean in all aspects of the word he is the child's father, he has been the one who has been there.  I wish you the best of luck!!  

Answer 2

You should have no problem retaining full custody.  However, if the father is given visitation rights, the judge would have to be given a good reason to restrict them to supervised visits.  

Answer 3

Think it over before you make a hugh mistake,

this person doesn't sound good to be in your sons life, do you want his life messed up?

You sound like an excellant mother, so love your son enough to do the right thing and say no.

You will be happy in the long run.

Answer 4

actualy thats something you would have to agree on, draft up a paper and sign it, if not then you will have to go to court to settle your differnces, he have rigths too as long as he havent signed them away, if he is willing to sign such a paperwhere he gives up sertaint rights then yeah, if not you will have to prove in court why these means are needed

Answer 5

3 people have rights here: you, him and your child. Do your best to see each one has what they want and need...The main person here is the child...they will not thank you when they are older for keeping them apart from their father...think about it.

Answer 6

i had the same problem trying to tell my 5 year old her dad had died in a car crash it was complicated but she sort of understands and she still calls my currant husband dad which i find great she has a little brother who is mine and my currant husbands and he is the dad to my 2 month old unborn child !!!!!!!!! good luck on telling him he should be fine and you should be able to get supervised visits so when you take your son to see his dad you will be able to go and stay there to hope this helped =)

Answer 7

Unless you fear for your son's safety with his father then you should let him see him alone.

If not then get supervised visits

No father deserves to see his child.

But every child deserves to see their father,

Answer 8

Yes, and it wouldn't be fair to either one to keep the father from his child unless he was totally harmful.

Answer 9

i think you should let him he probably will resent you for the rest of his life. i don't have any kids but ill be pissed if i couldn't have a relationship with my kid. your kid probably will have family h**l never get to me like grandparents cousins aunts and uncles brothers and sisters. my opinion don't do that to your kid and his real blood father

Answer 10

Were you ever married to the biological father ? Seems to me you already ARE the custodial parent. Don't let him try to make you think otherwise. You've been taking care of the child, and he just shows up when it's convenient. If he wants to talk $**t, tell him to bring it on.

Answer 11

my mum recently went through the same thing with my  dad i know she contacted her solicitor and she told her how to go about it but usually there has to be a reason so if there's any dirt why he shouldn't have custody state it in your case.

Answer 12

ask yourself why he has not been there for you in hard times, will he be this time loving to your son or will he bring more grieve to your heart?