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Life has been a superfast train???

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I m 27 yrs with two lovely kids & a great husband. by the time i was 19 i was married(arranged one).I was academically very bright. i was doing my degree when i married & left it half way through as my husband was in transferrable job.Last eight years were hectic.I completed my degree in computers ,my kids were broughtup by me all alone,i learned cooking,managed the household on my own,then enrolled in MCA.but now whenever i look back I wonder where all these years have gone.all these years I managed everything almost perfectly but now i m drained, i need a break from all these.i m good looking,don't look like a mother, i m quite fit but still i don't find anything interesting in my life.i made life of people around me so comfortable but i lost myself somewhere down the line.i want to run away from all this .i don' t find my life as rewarding as of the people who married late.my husband loves me but is not expressive at all.my kids r very young,i can't work outside, have not even a single friend. i don't feel like talking to anybody.i don't hide even a single thought from my husband, i have been pushing myself hard all these years.HELP ME, I M VERY DEPRESSED.

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  1. I really feel for you, because I understand what you are going through. See, it's quite simple, if you ignore your own needs and just focus on the needs of others (very typical in Indian society), you lose yourself. One day you wake up and don't know who you are, or what you are....you just feel drained and tired and want out.... You yearn to know yourself better...

    You have lost a sense of self but it is NEVER too late to regain it....

    You have to decide on what YOU want now and discuss your needs with your husband. For years you have given and given, and now it is time for everyone to give you a break, do do the things that make YOU happy and give you a sense of purpose in life. Going back to work could be one way, finding some outlet, making new friends who you can relate to, you need to do this and you need your husband to SUPPORT you in this... Let me know if you want to discuss further, I will give you my email address....


  2. Just analyse ur life...and c wat went wrong...wat do u want to do in life...do u want to work or u start any business from home...do watever u like....but dont think of ur life as meaningless...just think how u can help the society.....join an NGO or something...best of luck...

  3. it's a fact u easily forget god days then

    hard , trouble , bad days

    u shold go to a holiday with ur husband

    live life as u r 20

    u need to enjoy this precious life

    shopping , gossiping , fun

    will not come again

    when u will b 50 or more

  4. DONT BE DEPRESSED, FIRST THING I NOTICE IN U , THAT U ARE A BRAVE LADY, AND U SHUD BE HAPPY THAT U HAVE A GREAT HUSBAND, MOST OF THE LADIES DIDNT GET THE GOOD HUSBAND, THOUH U ARE EDUCATED, NAD U HAVE LITTLE KIDS, I WOULLD SUGGEST  2 OR 3 BOOKS FOR U, NO1 THE MONK WHO SOLD HIS FERRARI COST 200 RUPEES, YUGANDHAR ( THIS  IS A HOLY BOOK )IT WOULD COST RS1200, OR THE MOST PREFFED BOOK BY HINDUS, SHRIMAD BHAGWAT GEETA, WHEN U WILL STUDY ,THESE U WILL KNOWN ALL THOSE THINGS, I AM JUST 22, AND U CAN IMAGINE MY SITUATIN, I AM NOT VERY MUCH EXPERIENCE HOLDER ,  

  5. Tell ur husband to call for a maid to take care of ur children and tell him that u nd a relax.

  6. You have such a good family,caring husband, lovable kids.But I wonder why you are so depressed.You are a very strong lady

    (mentally).You have managed everything alone.Then why?

    Think of other ppl at your age who are waiting to get married or childless or not blessed with such a good family as you have.How fortunate you are.

    Forget all these thoughts.Divert your attention to GOD.Thank GOD for giving all goodness in your life.You can forget every sorrows by seeing your children's face.

  7. You really want to do work, it is very difficult to maintain home and office properly. If your husband good from earning then there is no need to do work. I think you should concentrate on your children better future. You have a happy and complete family most of the working women don't have all comforts in life somewhere something lacking. Today children are very sensitive they very deeply observe that who much their parent love or care them. So think widely for all these matter before taking any step. If your husband is agree with your decision then no problem. Go Ahead.

  8. you know something, you are so blessed and wonderful with so much courage and will power,you are not to lose your heart on account of some thing which needs silly attention. there are many things you have to achieve a lot. you are young. good looking. you can do wonders in your life. who knows great surprises are in the pipeline. pray God, the great God will support you all the time. you are noble you are required to be here to do many things.don't think anything otherwise.all the best

  9. It's just like that when you're 27. That was about my situation at that age. So, when you're on a superfast train, just take a lot of pictures to enjoy later. And why not enjoy the ride, after all? Yes, thank God for your blessings. This alone will make you feel less depressed.  

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