Life is so confusing :'( please help

Question

I don't understand. I'm kind, and have alot to offer. I invite TONS of people to things I do. (I invite them to so much stuff over and over, I can't understand why they don't even invite me to just one thing?) Like to go to the movies, come over and hang out at my house, go to an amusement park, out to ice-cream, to concerts, etc.(I always pay for them when the activity is really expensive.) to give you an idea, I invite a range of about 20 kids (1 to each event though). These people are friendly when I go up to them, but they never come up to me. Also, I call them too. But none of them call me back! This battle with life has been going on for about 6 years, when my best friend died, and I don't dwell on her loss, if thats what you're thinking. I'm also fairly attractive, so it can't be that. I hate bragging, but just to give you an idea of who I am.

(It's also this way at school too!)

Please help me figure this out. Your help will be sooo appreciated!

Thanks.

Answer 1

Actually, it's not so confusing just asks MC Hammer, he hired all of his friends to share the wealth and when the money ran out so did his so called friends. Beginning to see the picture. Stop spending on them, they are leeches. Only when you have something to offer will they show, as you mentioned they won't call to give you the time of day.  Sorry it had to turn out that way...

Answer 2

its simple ur a loser

Answer 3

listen.....this world is so mean..may be they are miss using u for everything..better u talk to them clearly and make it clear..

Answer 4

First let me tell you, life is MUCH different when school is over, people mature and realize all the popularity stuff you worry about in school is meaningless. And instead of just trying to be friends with everybody and paying for everybody to hang out with you, why don't you narrow your focus to just a few people or just one person who you feel you could be good friends with. Any wise person will tell you that even if you live to be 100 you will still only have a few good friends. So try to find those good friends and everyone else is just an aquaintance. They can be your friends too but you will only have a few really good ones. Also maybe by just inviting people to go have fun and paying for people isn't the right way to make good friends. You have to get to know someone personally. And these relationships take time and effort to build. So try to maybe just invite one or two people. You will have a much better chance of getting to know someone reallly good if it is just you and them. Just the 2 of you. When a crowd of people are around people are too busy keeping up appearances to reveal something personal, so that stops people from becoming real close. When you go through something with one other person you will become closer to them and you both will tell eachother some personal details and begin to trust eachother. But be careful who you choose. I have confided in some people who were VERY fun to hang around with, but it turned out they could not be trusted with the things I told them and they told everyone else. So be careful in who you choose to be your friend because by offering your friendship and trust, you are offering something VERY valuable. So find the person who may not be the most popular (remember that a few years after high school when everyone is 22 years old or so the poplularity in high school wont matter one bit) but someone who you feel has good moral values and could probably be trusted and try to become friends with that person. And you could help other people who don't have a lot of friends and become their friend. When you get older, many of the people who were considered to be "cool" will not be doing so great in life when they have to "grow up" and be part of the real world. The people who will make it are the ones who are level headed and stay out of trouble and keep focused on the future and their goals. And when you are successful, well then everyone will want to be your friend and you will be beating them away with a stick,lol

Answer 5

. . . first mistake you're making is not being yourself then it seems to me even you're not sure WHO you are!  :-)

Then you're trying too hard. Over eagerness wouln't get you true friends, true friends only like you for who you are. One good friend who likes you for who you are - is better than 10 others.

Don't try to be popular, or force other people to like, or bribe other people to like. Life is too short to worry about why am I not popular or why they don't call me. Be the best at what you do and be yourself . . . . and soon you'll be surrounded by true friends.

Don't try to please other people by doing what they want to do, so they would like you. You follow your own heart, what do you like to do - not what other people expect you to like.

Life is a balance - always remember don't be too

sweet so people eat you alive & at the same time don't be too bitter so people spit you out. People will only stampede over you if you let them.

Be true to yourself and you'll be friend who are true to you!

Answer 6

So you're asking why bad things happen to good people?

Well if you are religious you might find an answer there.

If (like me) you aren't then you might find it a little trickier to work out. Bad things don't necessarily happen to you 'cos you've been bad, and good things don't happen when you've been good. If you ask me, everyone gets chucked a random hodge-podge of both things, it's just the bad tend to stick out more. Maybe you should find happiness in the little things - the sound of rain on glass (I love it) and DON'T TRY TOO HARD!

And remember : Tomorrow is a new day ; Today is history

Answer 7

people are shallow these days.

and the people that are more deserving dont get anything in return let alone a chance..  

Answer 8

It is not for us to control other peoples actions much less bribe them with gifts and kindness.  If someone doesn't behave like you want them to, it's their freedom to do so.  But your first mistake is inviting "TONS" of people.  A very few really good friends is better than a ton of acquaintances.  There is only ever a few people who would love you for who you truly are.  Focus instead on finding these people.  

Answer 9

Be self-satisfied. You don't really need anyone. You have within you the ability to be totally happy by yourself. I experience the same treatment, but I have learned to be unattached to what others say and do. I do what is right for myself and help others when I can but I am not attached to what anyone else thinks of me or what others may do in relation to me. And you know that when people can see that you are self-satisfied, you become very attractive. They will want what you have. To be self-satisfied, understand that your happiness is within you and not dependent on external circumstances -- including who or who is not with you.  

Answer 10

Don't let yourself get used.  It's nice of you to want to take people to do fun things, but most people will go along for a free ride.  If you mean you have a lot to offer people personality wise and not just material, you're going to need to focus on bringing that out without breaking out your wallet.  Maybe you need to find some new friends who care about you for who you are, not what you do.