Life lessons in your 20's I've learned - What do you think?

Question

- Failing is a part of life - things just happen, sh*t happens but it's usually b/c something better is planned for you and things happen for a reason

- you can never really "prepare" and expect to do well for something in the future. You just have to gain the knowledge you're getting, hope you'll do well and just trust the process.

- your parents have more "life experience" than you, yes; BUT they're not God... w. any of us, they don't know any outcomes in life so if they're certain of how things are going to turn out... you can never fully believe it.

- Never ever doubt yourself, b/c once you do, that's when you fall. You are so much stronger than you think you are...

- in high school you dream about your 20's and how if you have a plan and stick with it, it'll be the "fun years" of living out your youth. WRONG. Once you hit your 20's, your plan of direction goes so many ways and not "on time".

- you can't plan things out in life; you just can't. It's good to have a plan but don't expect it to go exactly the way you want it to. Just play it by ear and be open minded.

- in love, you can't depend on a man's "word" or reassurance to confirm your securities. when we were younger, we were always taught to "end things right" or "deserve to have a reason" to have confirmation to move on. When you get older, you just have to believe things yourself w/o a man's word...

- in relationships, you just have to keep everything private. Privacy is a necessity. It's like Pandora's box: you mention one thing to a mutual friend and the next thing you know, everyone will know... even if it's a little thing. Little things go far and sooner of later, people will have the "right" to know or "report gossip" on your relationship...not good.

- when talking about your significant other, it's always best to keep it to yourself.. the good and bad. When we were younger, if a boyfriend did something sweet, girl friends would give him "good points". When you're older, it gets annoying and makes you and him look bad. If a boyfriend did something bad, your girl friends would be on your side and cheer you up; now, it just makes him look worse as a man and creates little grudges between him and your loved ones even if he is forgiven or is a misunderstanding

- first impressions are never a good indicator of a person's character. One minute, you could meet someone who you think would be a good girl friend but ends up being a drunk a$$ insecure girl who uses your friendship for the wrong reasons.

- some girls in their 20's never grow up out of high school. Sometimes it's good to stay away from girls b/c we're all still trying to figure ourselves out and it doesn't help when you put them together in a room w. alot of insecurity energy.

- you just can't expect anything in life and in love. You need to be humbled in experiences and with relationships.

Answer 1

Take it from someone much older than you. Almost everything you have learned will change before you are 25. And then will change again and then again and then again. If you don't believe me, look at your past. Do you still believe the way you did when you where 5, then 10, then 15, and now 20 .... Here are a couple of quotes I like " In school you learn a lesson and then are given a test. In life, you are given a test and hopefully, you learn a lesson." " We would like others to learn from our mistakes, but we forget that the only way we learned was through our own."

Answer 2

You messed the whole thing up when you wrote things like "you can't," "you need to be," "first impressions are never," "it's always best," "you just have to," etc.  

Nothing is that concrete, and it's foolish to think that things are always one way or another.

Continue to think and reflect on your experiences, but remember this: we never really know anything.

Answer 3

I'm a little older than you, at the other end of my 20s but I don't really agree with anything you wrote.

It's difficult to fit life lessons into a neat little box as you have done. When I was in high school and college it seemed as if females loved quotes. They were posted on their computer screen savers, hung on their walls, etc. but life it too complicated to live by quotes and reciting lessons learned from specific situations. What you think you know is going to change according to the situation. Our experiences act like a general guideline, but they shouldn't be set in stone for a person truly looking to grow and learn.