Life so pain...............

Question

im a shy person, whenever i talk to stranger, i felt nervous, cant follow up the conversation, and in my family, they never gives a dime to me, i work in family restaurant making sushis, and sometime they insult me for no reason, i really dont want to live my life like that, i have no idea wat am i going to do in my life.......and im almost 18

Answer 1

Awww thats sad. You should save up all your money and move away. Start a new life somewhere. Or start toughing up. Grow a back bone and whenever somebody insults you for no reason dont just stand there and let them walk all over you, say something back.

Answer 2

I am almost 21 and I live at home. My dad is always calling me lazy even though I am starting a job soon. I have trouble making friends because I am also in a way shy. I have never been given anything from my family. Don't worry about it life will get better! God Bless you.

P.S If you wanna talk about things just message me!

Answer 3

Go to college... have some fun

Answer 4

I think you answered it yourself. Almost 18 is the answer. Start looking for your answers to life. Life in not only painful but can be a train wreck at times.

This is a favourite of many Ithaka:

As you set out for Ithaka

hope your road is a long one,

full of adventure, full of discovery.

Laistrygonians, Cyclops,

angry Poseidon - don't be afraid of them:

you'll never find things like that one on your way

as long as you keep your thoughts raised high,

as long as a rare excitement

stirs your spirit and your body.

Laistrygonians, Cyclops,

wild Poseidon - you won't encounter them

unless you bring them along inside your soul,

unless your soul sets them up in front of you.

Hope your road is a long one.

May there be many summer mornings when,

with what pleasure, what joy,

you enter harbours you're seeing for the first time;

may you stop at Phoenician trading stations

to buy fine things,

mother of pearl and coral, amber and ebony,

sensual perfumes of every kind -

as many sensual perfumes as you can;

and may you visit many Egyptian cities

to learn and go on learning from their scholars.

Keep Ithaka always in your mind.

Arriving there is what you're destined for.

But don't hurry the journey at all.

Better if it lasts for years,

so you're old by the time you reach the island,

wealthy with all you've gained on the way,

not expecting Ithaka to make you rich.

Ithaka gave you the marvellous journey.

Without her you wouldn't have set out.

She has nothing left to give you now.

And if you find her poor, Ithaka won't have fooled you.

Wise as you will have become, so full of experience,

you'll have understood by then what these Ithakas mean

Answer 5

why not find another job you are 18 now so why not. or maybe you should tell your family it's time they start paying you for the work you do or you will move out.you really don't need the insults, it's time for you to start planing your life on your own, good luck.

Answer 6

Well I would suggest a better job; a job dealing with talking to strangers.. you need to become more experienced with people. This will make you a better people-person, and you will eventually feel comfortable with yourself. It'll be easier for you to make friends, talk to strangers, etc.

Answer 7

You can do whatever you want in life. Move out when you graduate high school and do whatever you feel is right. That's the great thing about America.

Answer 8

i understand. its hard right? but go to a quiet place and ask yourself. what wrongness did you do?

Answer 9

hi, can you tell another relative how you feel - like an aunt or uncle or cousin? sometimes other people see exactly what's going on.

i'm a lot older than you and i've just come to terms with a lot of things. i grew up like you, nervous, shy, basically afraid. what i've learned is that it all stems from my family. my dad spoke poorly to my mom and so the children took up a meanness. i took the brunt of it - nowadays it's called emotional abuse. now i watch them, observe them and i don't have to like them.

if your family does not encourage you and tell you how great you are, of course you'll feel insecure. we need people around us that make us feel good. you're in a tight situation right now, but it will change and you will make it better.

you and i were born perfect and over the years we've been influenced by how we have been treated. they had me believing that there was something wrong with me because kids believe older people.

inner turmoil reflects to the outsides. the nervousness and shyness come from a space inside you. i think you do see that they are wrong and not you, and because of all this you will become stronger in self. not having family support and love is really really really hard, but eventually you will see that you were given those experiences for a reason of strength, understanding and compassion.

You're still incredibly young and please be easy on yourself. remember deep breathing is calming. Maybe now you have to put up with them for financial reasons, but you won't always have to. stay in school and even though you might not know where you're going right now, you will find it.

good luck to you and god bless

i'd give you a big hug if i could

Answer 10

I'm sorry for what you are going through. But I also think life is what you make it to be. I apologize for saying this but you sound weak. Be strong! if you don't like how your life is going, what's stopping you from changing? I understand how you feel about being shy but you have to make an effort to getting used to socializing, trust me it does get easier!  Why don't you look for a job where the actually pay you and not treat you like that? Its ok if you're still not sure what your going to do in life. You are still young, but you do have to start thinking about it. Good luck and God bless :)

Answer 11

well try to be a happier person and don't care about the people that insult u, it's pro-ably not true!