Like a second mother to me

Question

I been dating a young man now for 2 months. I love his faimly to death. His mother seems to like me very much. She has like me out of all his other girlfriends. Some of the girls he had dated before me did drugs and had no jobs and didn't go to college or didn't pass high school. I don't do drugs and I do have a job and I also go to college and working on getting a degree in fine arts. I'm 24 almost 25 my boyfriend is only 20. I'm just afriend I will loss his mother love for me if I felt that her son wasn't the one for me. Do you think his mother will still like me if I don't date her son anymore?

Answer 1

she wont care. if she really does love you that much. but it does really matter on how much you know her. i say get to know her a lot better. like extra alot. than dump him. so she will still like you

Answer 2

It will hurt her that you hurt her son.  But if she's normal she'll know it's part of life, that couples don't always work out.  You like her that much in 2 months?? wow.  Tell her how you feel, I'm sure she'll still like you.

Answer 3

well if you break up with her son, she might feel that she shouldnt have contact with you dealing on how he takes the blow. but if the son accepts it and you nd him see each other as friends i think she might still like you

hope that helped =]

Answer 4

Think of your own future, don't bother about that, concentrate on your study and work or you will feel regret in future,find a guy that really suits you,love you, and you love too.

Answer 5

Depends on how you and her son part. If you and he can be just friends than maybe you won't lose her, but how many relationships really end that good?

Answer 6

it depends on the woman I still see my daughters exes and they call me mom but be considerate and do not interfere with his life by keeping contact with mom but heck why even think of what might or might not happen enjoy today for what it is worth

Answer 7

WELL IF SHE LIKES YOU THAT MUCH THEN SHE SHOULD STILL ELIKE YOU IF YOU DONT DATE HER SON ANY MORE. JUST SIT DOWN WITH HER AND TELL HER WHY YOU ARE NOT DATEING HIM ANY MORE AND I AM SURE SHE WILL UNDERSTAND. IF SHE DONT THEN HEY YOU HAVE TO BE HAPPY YOU CANT STAY WITH SOMEONE IF THEY ARE NOT RIGHT FOR YOU. JUST REMAIN FRIENDS WITH THEM BOTH IF YOU CAN GOOD LUCK

Answer 8

I DONT THINK SHE WILL HATE YOU BUT THE RELATIONSHIP WILL CHANGE JUST A BIT

Answer 9

i actually was at a graduation party

today, and the grad's 3rd ex's mom

was there, and they were laughin

and chating it up the whole party,

so yeah, you do have the chance

:)

Answer 10

ahah

Answer 11

Well love can be a confusing thing sometimes and know matter what you want or what you think, you have to do what is right in your heart. If you have the right reasons and you brake it to him kindly i think the 2nd mother relationship should still work out just you might not see her as much as you use to.

do what you feel is right ~ Madz

Answer 12

Absolutely. Most mothers tend to look down on their son's or daughter's girlfriend or boyfriend. You are very lucky. If she likes you now, if anything, she'll like you even more when you break up with him.

Answer 13

Try 2 stay on good terms with him, like friends wise but she should still like you. My ex's mother knows that we don't go together but she still calls me 4 family events and etc, she knows I'll always be there 4 him

Answer 14

Probably not much.

Answer 15

calm down and just tell her calmly & hope she'll understand!

I think it doesn't matter if u dont date her son anymore has anything 2 do with her liking u.

Answer 16

If she is like a second mother to you, you should be able to tell her, Its going to hhurt her, that your going to hurt her son, but she should understand, and if she doesnt, then she want that much like a second mother.

Answer 17

The same thing happened with my dad n some girl he dated. My grandmother loved this girl. so did my dad but after they broke up. My grandmother never talked to her again. So i dont think so.

Answer 18

you know us mothers always want the best for our kids.  So you must fall into that catagory the best for her son.  Don't stay in a relationship because of the mother. You are not going to date or marry or live with the mother. Be honest with her, let her know how much you value her as a friend, and that you would like to keep it that way. Explain that your feeling just aren't there for her son, only as a friend also.  She will probably be sad about it. I thought one of the girls my son dated was alot better choice than what he picked.  Still do!. In fact if he was still with her he probably wouldn't be dead right now.  Died in Jan. of a broken heart. But you can't live a lie. Be true to yourself. Maybe you all will be able to still hang out. Who knows you might even fall for this guy later, Ive seen it happen. Like the song says Love Grows.

Answer 19

short and straight to the point yes i think shell still like you it happens all the time and shes not going to hate you for something you dont want.

Answer 20

well, realli if u split up with her son, then i dont think that it wud affect the mother's luv 4 u even though she shouldnt get involve wif u anymore now that if her son is going through a rough time. in other words, it doesnt change the way his mother feels 4 u even if she doesnt show it. but im sure she'll understand wif ur reason that ur not sure if hes the rite one 4 u.

Answer 21

His mother likes YOU.  There's nothing wrong with keeping in touch with her if he isn't the right one for you.  But until you're at the bridge crossing, you won't know whether she wants to keep in touch after you break up.  Most moms do want to keep in touch, though, because they hope their son will get back together with you, or because they simply like you as a friend.

Focus on your relationship with him and make it as good as it can be.  

Answer 22

doubt it, if she considers youu family

she'll still like youu.

Answer 23

if you have created a great relationship with his mon and you guys have a friendship there she wouldn't mind and oh yea don't break up in bad terms and you will be fine.

Answer 24

Whoa you're stuck in the middle there.

I would talk to her directly and say calmly [sometimes old people can't take in big news really quickly] and slowly that you're going to dump her son but you still want to stay in touch with her because she feels like a second mother to you.

Hope that helped.

Answer 25

I'm sure she would. If she's like a second mother to you--she'll always love you and always understand.

she might be a bit in shock at first, but I'm almost positive things will work out.

:] HTH

Answer 26

yes she will she is a woman and should understand please help me          

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Answer 27

Hard top maintain a friendship with someone if you don't give a valid reason why you are breaking up with some1.Breaking up with him is like your telling his mother he isn't good enough for you.



Don't stay with him simply because you love his mother

Answer 28

don't be afraid of losing someone's love that isn't what you needed. remember, you can't please everyone.  

Answer 29

She will still like you, but will not put much effort towards continuing a relationship as it will be awkward with her son.

Remember:  BLOOD IS THICK

Answer 30

well if u break up with her son i think she would get mad at u but i think u guys can b friends help me plz http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;...

Answer 31

Tell his mother how you feel and most likely she will understand!