Like to hear the Fems opinions on this.?

Question

OK here it is I have a friend who was married to his high school sweet heart. There marriage was rocky so a divorce happened. They have 2 kids and been divorce for about less than 3 years. He just found out that she is now a L*****n. An partner has been living with her. Now he doesn’t mind that she’s a L*****n, he is upset that he paid for her college to get a degree. Paid for her apartment a bought her a new car. All the while she was with this other woman. An always making him feel as if the divorce was his doing. I am very interested on how this is ok for women to do this. An I doubt it’s a isolated incident.

Answer 1

I am a woman and I do not think this is ok. . .and not all women think men are sugar daddies to be stomped on.

Answer 2

Why do you say "how this ok for women to do this?"  Straight and g*y men cheat so why just blame women for this?  What they paid for in the marriage should have nothing to do with their current lives.  He didn't know she was a L*****n at the time of her college degree, apartment and new car.  Did he pay for these items when they had split up?  If that is the case then I think he was too generous and should never have spent that much money on her.  But I guess he was concerned for her welfare after they split.  He needs to move on and not be so generous with his money again.

Answer 3

The pro-feminist judges are totally biased. They are anti-male, and seek to plunder all their assets. Men are an alternative source of authority to the criminal cult that is the lawyer profession. The lawyer wants to destroy the family. He will destroy the male to further the lawyer anti-family agenda.

Answer 4

I don't care what other women may think. Cheating is cheating rather it's g*y are straight. It's not ok at all. I'm not against lesbians but i do believe that is still cheating.

Answer 5

Why didn't the court protected the guy on this case?

Sadly things like this happen everyday.

Answer 6

You are right it happens all of the time. Both men and women do it. Is you friend more upset because the other person was a woman or because he paid. At least he knows that he was the only man.

Answer 7

Four words:  Jim McGreevey Dina Matos.

Your friend's situation may not be isolated, but it's not common.  When I hear it, it's usually the man who has a g*y lover and a graduate education paid for by a hard-working wife.  What's your point?

It's not okay for women to do this . . . or men either, so stop your infernal whining and victim-card-playing.

Answer 8

Who said it was OK?

And yes, I'm sure it happens quite a bit...both ways. Men who can't confront their sexual orientation marry, as well, only to have a miserable marriage. Perhaps the women feel like they were used as "baby-making machines."

If our society was more accepting of homosexuality, it would probably happen less.

Answer 9

If I were in that situation I would be angry about being deceived like that. First, for being lead to belief that the divorce was because of something I did. Second, if I were to help someone like that, at the very least I would expect the person to have been honest with me.

Sadly, this kind of thing happens to men and women all the time. It's called being an opportunist.

Answer 10

Sounds like a bad deal.

A friend of mine worked full time and cared full time for four kids while her husband first studied, then went through two years as an unpaid intern at a job before he got a paid position, then while he went overseas for another two years of training with the firm he worked for.

After 15 years of marriage, just when he finally started earning enough so she thought she could maybe cut back to part time work, he found a new love in his life, told my friend she didn't have what it takes to be the wife of a jet setting executive, insisted they sell the house so she now lives in a small apartment with four kids and the dog (no, he didn't want the responsibility of any of them) and fu*ked off to be a glamour guy. I've even seen his pic in the papers from time to time, looking like a guy with no worries at all.

Which of course, he is.

Bummer, eh. Happens a lot, which is why the term 'starter wife' exists in the language.

Seems like your friend might have been the 'starter husband'.

Cheers :-)

Answer 11

"A fool and his money are soon parted".

--Aesop's Fables