Listening in a conversation!?

Question

I am naturally a shy person and in conversations I do find it difficult to communicate because I am constantly worrying about my appearance and trying to focus on speaking clearly. The thing that troubles me is actually listening to someone in a conversation, because I never know where to look!!?? I find it awkward looking people in the eye and I don't want to seem uninterested by looking around the room! Please help! Any advice would be appreciated. Also my body language is a problem! How can I appear confident!!??

Thanks X

Answer 1

just look them in the eye dont be self conciese occationally looking away if u are genuenly interested in wat they are sayin they will know!!

Answer 2

Look them straight in the eye.

Answer 3

Make yourself look people in the eye, its is the clearest sign to other people you care about what they are talking about

Answer 4

say the first relevant thing u think of lound so ever1 pays attension and ask regular q's asw much as possible, even if u dont know or care whats goin on

Answer 5

where high heels and makeup, change your dress sense, tell yourself you are amzingly beautiful which u are then you will appear confident, dont think about how you appear to others, you`ll automatically gain confidence, join a gym (fitness club) this will boost your confidence, look the person in the eye it is rude to look elsewhere~! :)

Answer 6

I sort of know what you are going through. It is a feeling that no matter what you say or do nor how you look, you feel that you aren't good enough and that other folk will think that you are stupid and that they are all looking at you.

Self confidence starts in the mind! everything else will just fall into place. I had my problem sorted when I was sort of trapped across the dance floor when I needed to go to the toilet. I wouldn't go 'cos the music had stopped and the floor was empty. My then girlfriend said to just walk across the floor and when I got to the other side to turn round and count the number of people who were looking at me. I did just that and counted - zero - none - nil - nobody. Since then when i feel self conscious about something or lacking in confidence, I just think about that time and realise that I am who I am and that I am just as good as everybody else and better than some.

As for conversations. I find that looking at their mouth helps me to concentrate on what they are actually saying and to remember. If I look at their eyes, I find that my mind wanders from what is being said.

Very few people actually look you "in the eye" when they talk/listen. They just look at your face in general

Good Luck