Little brother bullied, made fun of...how to help?

Question

My little brother (3rd grade) was at his soccer practice.

he's not as good as all the kids, and the kids are REALLY mean to him, they call him names and make fun of him

he started crying when i picked him up after practice.

I want to help, i don't know what to tell him or what he should do...

what could i do to help him?! advice?!

Answer 1

Compliment him and praise him as much as you can.  Give him some one on one time with you, doing stuff kids his age like to do.  Help him learn to play soccer a little better if you can.  Be very careful not to show disapproval (even a look) or criticize  him when you two are together.  If he misbehaves when you're taking care of him and you feel like you need to say something, be sure to address what he did, not him.  Talk to your parents and let them know what is going on.  Tell them what you plan to do to try and help him feel good about himself, and ask them if they think it's a good idea and want to help also.  Let them decide whether or not to talk to the coach.  Sometimes this can make things worse.  Overall, I've learned that a person is best able to deal with a bully if they have really good self confidence.  So just try to help him get his confidence up in any way you can.

Answer 2

Tell him to talk to the coach and tell him everyone get pick on  once in a while in there life and don't let them get to him because kids are mean and they would do it more if they see if it bugs him.

Answer 3

I would give him the ammunition to retaliate. Sometimes the kids that are picked on are the ones that can't think of anything harsh enough to shut the other kids up.

My son is very quiet and gets a long with most kids, but there have been times when he was younger that he has been bullied by overbearing kids.

So when we got home we went through a pretend situation like I was the bully. And I told him to tell the person "don't talk to me like that" in a really stern voice. or "don't talk to me if all you're going to do is be mean." "why are you being so mean?" are just a few examples

If your brother gets loud to this other kids and calls out the fact that they are being mean other kids will feel more empowered to stand against the bully. Trust me, if there are bullies around other kids see it too...it's just they are just too scared to stand up for someone else.

If you give your brother the means to defend himself, it will hopefully stop. And it will give him the confidence to stand up to people that aren't doing the right thing.

he's lucky to have you looking out for him but this is a battle that he has to fight...otherwise it will just get worse.

Role-play with him, it may seem silly....but it really does work. Because in the end whenever the bully is mean to him again he'll already be prepared to yell back at him and call the kid out about being mean.

Answer 4

Start showing him how to box and start sparring with him.

Answer 5

Talk to the coach

Answer 6

Talk to the coach. He should not be allowing this to happen. If it continues then look for another team for him

Answer 7

It is important to have confidence as a child so you should start out by telling him how great he is and how great he will become...the more you tell him, the more he will start to believe it!

if he is getting teased by other kids in the team, you should not encourage him to make fun of them back or fight back with them, that will eventually just make things worse!

you could practice with him and ask the coach to give him a few extra practices one-on-one to improve his skills!

maybe you could help him find another sport that he is really good at and that will boost his confidence when he gets on the soccer field!

Answer 8

let him get out of soccer

Answer 9

Tell him that they are just immature and maybe they are jealous of him. I guarantee he is playing just fine. In 12 years, he'll be getting very far in life, but those mean bullies will be working at McDonalds the rest of their life and he could say to them. "You say you're better than me. I proved you wrong!" Tell his coach what is going on.

Answer 10

Practice with him and let hiim know how special you think he is. If he loves soccer and wants to play, don't encourage him to quit. Talk to the coach and see what can be done, but sometimes the coach is also a parent and has to be dealt with carefully.

Answer 11

Hey, that really sucks, but I am glad that you brother has you to watch over him.

A few things I can suggest is telling an adult, like your parent or your even your teacher. Hopefully, your parent may be able to talk to the coach, or maybe your teacher can give you some more tips or talk to the coach themselves. ALso, maybe your teacher, parent or other adult can talk to the bullies parents.

Also, if you feel comfortable, you can talk to the coach. The coach may not know what is going on, and once he/she does then they can stop it.

Sometimes, and if you feel okay with it, you can talk to the bullies yourself. In a public area, like the soccer field, you can tell them that you know what they are doing, and they they should stop it. You can do this alone, or with someone else to support you. When you are talking to them, dont be a bully yourself, such as calling them names or pushing them. That makes you go down to their level, being a bully just like them. Instead, talk about how you hate them bullying your brother, and if it carries on you are going to tell the coach/teacher/parents or some other adult. And, most importantly, if they keep on bulllying your brother, then tell an adult.

Finally, I have attached a link to some tips on how your brother can deal with bullying. This is one of many website that can help you out.

I hate bullyings, they can be very mean, but the best thing to do is to get help, which I can see is what you are doing for you brother. Good luck!