Little brother is "dating" a much older girl?

Question

My little brother got a new cellphone recently, so one day when he forgot it at home I had the chance to see what kind of cool things his could do compared to my older cell. When I was in the Videos menu, I was surprised to see a video he recorded of himself having s*x with one of the popular cheerleader girls from my high school. The problem is she's 18 years old and my little brother is almost 14. I'm also worried what kind of STDs they might get because he had his o****m inside the girl and without wearing a condom. I don't know who to talk to or what to do. Should I talk to my brother or my parents? I thought girls always liked older guys, so isn't it very rare for a girl to be so attracted to a boy younger than her? Anyway, I would appreciate any advice I can get.

Answer 1

Omg 14 that is rediculas but it is your bro's buisness he got himself in to the mess let him get out but when he does tell your parents (witch aventually he will) be on his side and help..........make sure you some how get the vidieo on your computer............so if he doesn't tell in bout a month tell him to tell or show your parents it!!..............and how did he get the idea did you tell him that you had s*x with a girl befor or somt?       just make sure you talk to him..................but that is serius!!     but make sure you tell him to be carfull with what you do cause when it is done there is no turning back!!

Answer 2

If I were you, I'd worry more about his lack of a raincoat. I personally have always been crazy about older women (my wife is 11 years older than I am), so it's not the age you should worry about.

Approach your brother in a non-aggressive way, and make it more of a chat than being condescending. I myself am an older brother, and know that sometimes it's easier to just play it cool and not be mean. Let him know that his life is his life, but you gotta look out for him and let him know that if he's gonna be getting crazy, to at least wrap it up. h**l, you could even offer to buy him some jimmy-hats. Or, even take him to your local health department, because most have, what we used to call "the brown bag special", which is an assortment of condoms....for free.

Best of luck to you and your brother!

Answer 3

I think your brother is a little young to date this girl, and yes i think you should talk to him, don't argue with him talk to him calmly and tell him how you feel, Let him know that you're concern.

Answer 4

hahaha shameful on your brother,,dont look at his videos,,,i think you should talk to him not your parents,,thats not very nice lookin at his stuff but hahaha ,,,,,

Answer 5

well it doesn't matter if he "had his o****m inside the girl"

in terms of STDs

if he wasn't using a condom, the second he's "inside the girl"

there's a chance of STDs

I'd be much more worried about pregnancy.

I don't know what your situation is like....but you need to be talking to somebody immediately

I'd start with your brother.....I'm sure he doesn't want a child

and I'm sure he has no idea how lucky he'll be if he doesn't end up with one at 14 (or for the next few years for that matter)

if he doesn't respond.....maybe go to your parents?

somebody needs to teach him some sense about this kind of thing.

Good luck.

Answer 6

You should leave it alone(and not snoop on his cell phone). If shes one of the popular cheerleader girls, I seriously doubt shes the type to go into the hood and smoke crack and get hiv while working the corner. I wouldnt worry about stds, if hes acting like that now hes bound to get herpes or something from a much dirtier girl later in life but stuff like that isnt a killer like hiv so if hes going to get it, hes going to get it and warning him is useless. Your brother is going to be with lots of other girls in his life aside from her where he will have much greater risks to catch them. Its really not your business what hes doing because its normal for 14 year old guys to want to get with older girls and I knew lots of girls that liked guys around that age at 18 so its not a big deal. He should be wearing a condom though so she doesnt get pregnant, but she may be taking pregnancy pills so I dont think its a big deal then. But if she gets pregnant it will just be another kid being raised by a kid so we can have one more problem in this world.