Live with Ex and our kid, shes dating, im crushed..help?!?

Question

Im currently living with my ex of 5 years, we have a 2yr old girl. Our relationship was not the greatest. We fought, but then would make up. How its going now is like this. Shes on the computer/phone etc all the time with her new bf and a **** eating grin on her face.. :( I know they have been "together" and i know when she tells me shes going to her friends then ends up with him..in my car. I feel devastated. She is so gorgeous and every time I see her i think of exactly how our relationship was when it first started, and it seems as if I am seeing those images with someone else in my shoes. Its killing me. What should I do????? Lately ive been sitting silent, being killed slowly..hah

Answer 1

although it seems like the best thing to do is live together for the childs sake, but if you guys arent getting along and these things she is doing is affecting you then its affecting your child. i say move out and keep a friendly relationship but only for the child. not a friendship like hanging out and catching up, that will only cause more hurt.  

Answer 2

If at all possible, MOVE OUT!!!  This is not a healthy thing.  You need the space to get over her without seeing her moving on without you.  Even if she doesn't mean it that way, it must feel like she is rubbing your nose in it.  

You need to work out custody, visitation and support around your daughter, but she does not really need to be caught up in the weird vibe this arrangement has.  I have a friend who stayed together in a relationship that became non-sexual, where he slept in a different room, and I think it warped the daughter's sense of what a normal, healthy relationship looks like.  It also limited both adults in their growth and opportunities for happiness.  Please move out and move on.  It may be more expensive, but it is easy to over-value money and under-value ourselves.

Good luck.

Answer 3

Why are you still living there? Is it to help support your family/be with your daughter? How old are you? Is she stringing you along, maybe giving you hope that you might get back together? Did you agree to her dating?