Living in texas and I want to adopt my granddaughter where do I start. Her mother doesn't want her.?

Question

My daughter had her baby in an effort to trap the baby's father into loving her and when it didn't work she has given up on the baby.

Answer 1

Get a lawyer. You have to have both your daughter and the baby's sign off on the adoption.  You do not need social services in this.

Answer 2

Dear Crstee,

First let me applaud you for stepping up for your Granddaughter! You sound like a very loving Grandparent!!

I would like to suggest that you look to kinship guardianship before you make any final decisions as it may be more suitable for your situation.

Kinship Guardianship is a simple process that will give you legal rights (custody, medical and educational choice, etc.) to your Granddaughter without all the "to do" of an adoption. (It does not require a homestudy, background check, etc.) It can usually be done quickly and in a lawyer's office without having to go to Court. It is very inexpensive (in my state it is usually $150-200) and allows you to collect child support from your Daughter and her ex if you choose. It leaves your Granddaughter's birth certificate unaltered and cannot be revoked unless you are proven unfit in a Court of Law. You will also be eligable for financial assistance, respite care, counseling services and legal assistance through several programs.

There are also several support groups and organizations available for you as well, here are a few links:

http://www.cwla.org/advocacy/2006legagen...

http://www.raisingyourgrandchildren.com/

http://www.usa.gov/Topics/Grandparents.s...

http://www.grandparents.org.au/

http://www.archrespite.org/archfs45.htm

I sincerely hope that your Daughter will choose to be there for her Daughter in what ever way she can manage.

Best of luck to you and your family!! I hope you all have a happy and healthy future!

Answer 3

Well I hate to say it but girls that do this are usually trying to make up for something they didn't get enough of at home. At least thats they way they feel.

It odd she doesn't want to keep the baby though. Usually, they are so attached to the unconditional love they fight against adoption.

I would suggest being a temporary guardian to your grandson until your daughter sorts through her emotions. Some girls just can't handle them as well and need a little time to come around. Its what family is supposed to be for.  Adoption isn't necessary and could be harmful to the baby as well as your daughter.

Avoid social services unless you want to chance losing your grandson. It happens all the time.

Answer 4

Lovely girl you raised there G'ma - bet you're so proud.

Better luck raising the grandchild.

Answer 5

I work in the ct courts your best bet is to call child services.

Answer 6

Tell her the child is welcome in your home, contact a family law attorney and have them on stand by.  If she does not leave near you make sure all her friends, doctors and relationships that you are concerned for the child.  Give them you number and have them call if the child is in any danger or any needs are unmet.  Many a grandparent is raising grandchildren it happens way too often. Good Luck and God Bless

Answer 7

How long has your granddaughter been living with you.  in WI in the mother hasn't had contact for 6 months it's abandonment and you can start adoption proceedings.  you may want to check into that.  Your daughter can sign over guardianship and that will be the start to adoption.  Not only does your daughter have to give up her rights so does the baby's father.  Is he willing to do that.  The court also has to believe it's a better situation for her.