Living with someone who suffers from depression??

Question

before i met my boyfriend he suffered from depression.. he wasnt working , was hanging around with lads who were no good for him and basically leading a lifestyle he should not of been..

he has been off his tablets the last 6 months or so and life has been brilliant.. we have had the most amazing few months, he is back working and been on top of the world.. until a few days ago.. mood swings set in, snapping at me for everything and now just in a black mood that he cant get out of. i find it hard to understand as everything is going well in his life?? i am finding that i am feeling rejected and nothing i do helps (listening/talking/ doing everything/ doing nuthing/. and now im gettin narky around him too!! he keeps saying he is so sorry and its not fair on me, i love him so much and im so afraid im gonna lose him to his depression.

has anyone any insight into how i should deal with this??

does anyone else feel useless because their loved one suffers from depression?? HELP PLEASE!!

thanks in advance!

Answer 1

It's a difficult thing to live with a person suffering from depression.

You have to handle the mood swings, they are often keeping things from you, crying alot, and sometimes you feel useless.

Just remember that you must support him in all things he goes through and be strong.  

Answer 2

As hard as it seams there is nothing that you can do for your boyfriend except be there for him.

Unfortunitly he is the only one who 'can sort himself out', but, having you near is probably helping him. Depression is a very personal illness and can be a very selfish one, as it makes people withdraw into themselves.

Although life can appear to be going great for him, from the outside and the tablets helped him initially deal with the symptoms, I found councilling to far more effective in the long term as it allowd me to spot the trigger points and develop coping mechanisms.

I know it is hard for you but please try to understand it's not your fault, so try and carry on with your own life, and doing so help him get his life back on track.

Take care and there will be light at the end of the tunnel, Phil

Answer 3

look up depression in an online an also try to be your self its not you i understand  i hvae depression life is life hard an true just doo what u  can an try to make him see the other isde of life that the glass might be  half full an to count his blessings around him  point out others that are worse  off    

Answer 4

it is biochemical for him

this is not about you

this is for him to solve

you live your life

Answer 5

my sister had it, and she still has mood swings and she has latley come off he tablets.

Something has probably happened to trigger him and you probably need to find out what it is or take him to a doctor to see if they can sort it out.

He might be going through a phase but stick with him and you'll get through it together :)

Answer 6

The symptoms of depression should persist for at least 2 weeks before a doctor will treat him for it, fyi.  Sorry, I don't know what else to tell you.  Just continue doing what you've been doing, listen to each other, try to have as much fun together as possible.  Good luck.

Answer 7

Firstly the only thing you can do is ensure that they are receiving treatment for their depression and that they are taking their medication.  But you dont want to come off acting like his mother.  He has to take some responsibility for this condition too.

If you are feeling as though he is rejecting you, let him know.  he may not be aware of it at all and may be too self-involved to see it.

There may be a support group out there for you, I would google it and see what type of support groups are available.  Best of luck.

Answer 8

Perhaps you can try this and let me know the output i will help you to plan for it.

Step 1: Ensure your emotion is controlled daily. Don't over reacted, stay calm and don't get worry easily

Step 2: Think before your action. Don't repeat her past experience on herself. Remind herself from time to time.

Step 3: Be confident to yourselves. Remember everyone is the winner. "Only One sperms out of millions fertilize an egg"

Step 4: Get a group of close friends to share your experience and get some activities that would occupied your time

Step 5: Increase scope of life. Meaning that she should involve in more social activities like dancing, outing and others.

Step 6: Put a rubberband on the wrist. If there is a negative thought, Tighten the rubber band and release it. Hence the effect of the pain would be able to reduce the possibility of negative thought.

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Besides, If you have more psychological problem, please write to me at

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Answer 9

I suffered with it for 13 years and met my GF and she put up with it for a year and then I found the gym.

Training is the only anti-depressant that works and believe me I've tried them all including other things such as cocaine addict for 5 years as long with alcoholism for 4 years.

I started at the gym 14 months ago and it works that well that I'm training to be a personal trainer so I can help people like myself and your BF.

Answer 10

find the root of his depression what makes him like this??

past event?

do other members of his family have it?

did he smoke alot of  Dope as a youngster?