Loneliness is it a fact of life ?

Question

Loneliness is it a fact of life ?

Answer 1

It is part of the human condition. It is caused by a disconnect between parts of your psyche. You feel alone because you are not emotionally integrated at that moment. Some part of you is suppressed, shut down, or something. As soon as you resurrect that part of yourself, loneliness is over. This explains how people can feel perfectly happy without anyone around, and miserably lonely while with others.

Answer 2

No it's a state of mind

Answer 3

pretty much.  

Answer 4

stumbled upon this youtube video on lonliness by a buddhist called ajahn brahm, i think it may help you alot so heres the link:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6fb4IYpKY...

hope it helps. if it doesnt link straight in search youtube for Ajahn Brahm: Dharma talk on loneliness.  

Answer 5

nope  you need to  find that 1 special person to   spend your life with  x x x x

Answer 6

Loneliness is a state of belief created by the mind. It is not something that happens TO us. It is only ourselves that can generate emotion and only us that can put in place the barriers between our understanding of self and every other invidual and what we percieve them to be to us. Not only are these barriers we put in place separating us from other individuals after a while the same barriers become our comfort, our security, that can mean, we become afraid to let them go. In this state of mind, we fully expect people to come into our lives and provide FOR us that same sense of security, of friendship, of patience without having to endevour ourselves. But the simple fact is, that these essential qualities can only come from ourselves so placing expectation on external forces will only allow us to continually be dissapointed. Why am I always alone? Why have I not found the perfect partner? why is my friendship group so limited? An individual, purley by chance or through the circumstance they are born into, can be virtually alone in terms of family relations or even close friendship, yet can still be perfectly content, because they recognise that they essentially can never be completely isolated, as by virtue of their humanity alone, they are part and parcel of a far greater community. If you allow yourself to cultivate a sense of belonging to a wider community, and not judge your place in the world and your connection to it soley by (for example) the number of contacts you have in your address book. loneliness no longer becomes an issue. Many individuals who have family and friends still feel isolated, so in this case it is important to recognise firstly what it is about your personal view of yourself and perception of the world that contributes to you feeling like this? and secondly recognise that the biological casing each of us walks around in does not automatically determine that irregardless of our efforts we can never truely be connected to another person, connection extends far beyond our physical form and often the greastest rewards come from concentrating our connections on the deeper level, extending towards anothers intellect and emotion can provide for us that sense of truely knowing another person and guarantee a sense of belonging.

So no, loneliness is not a fact of life, however occasionally doubting oursleves is, so one should never feel guilty for feeling isolated from time to time, it is simply yet another oppertunity to reflect and improve.  

I hope this helps answer your question.

Best Wishes Lovelee x

Answer 7

only if youve formed attachments earlier in life then when you eventually have to be parted you will feel lonely

Answer 8

Nope loneliness is not a fact of life it is a state of mind. You dont need to be with a person or have someone around to change this feeling either no one should feel lonely. Find ways to change this. Bf, Gf, Friends, Pet or a hobby, social group if you put forth the effort then it can be changed but if you just want it handed to you then you have to deal with being lonely sometimes you have to work for things you want in life, everything cant be handed to you on a silver platter!

Answer 9

Yes.

And most people spend most of their lives attempting to distract themselves from acknowledging that uncomfortable fact by using drugs, religion, s*x, music, TV, fashion, pop music, whatever.

We're born on our own; we die on our own. In the middle bit, the best we can hope for is that we'll find people who are willing to share their lives with us. If we're incredibly lucky, we'll meet someone who sparks some magic connection for a brief instant and lets us feel that we are not alone.

Believe it or not, I'm actually quite a happy, positive guy who has had loving, long-term relationships for most of my life. Maybe that's because I decided a long time ago that I shouldn't have unrealistic expectations about other people and what the universe had in mind for me.